Organ donation , what are your thoughts?

[ariel]

After watching a progamme called " death" on channel 4 last night, which follewed 3 terminally ill people till they died, dh and i chatted for a long time about what we wanted to happen after we died, i have allways felt vert strongly in favour of organ donation and if possible i want to donate all of my organs , but dh is very strongly against it .I would never go against his wishes, but then the sticky subject of what would happen if one of our children were to die, again i feel very strongly that i would want their organs to help other people, but dh was really upset by this , he said if we were in this position and i went against his wishes regarding any of our children that he would never forgive me, infact he said he would divorce me. Although this sort of decision is a very personal one and i would never go against his personal wishes regarding him self i truely beleive that if something awfull happened then i would go ahead and give the doctors all my support in useing any of their organs, Im i wrong to think this, should i put dh feelings before mine. I must say i am sorry if this sounds quite morbid, but with both of us haveing such strong views i really think this is an important subject that has to be delt with.

ariel - if you check a few messages down you will see I have done a link to the NHS organ register - not sure if it is the same as the one you have quoted as the address is different, but I do know that hospitals refer direct to the NHS list.

PamT - you don't HAVE to make a financial donation (but definately a blood donation ) to register but it is probably actively encouraged as testing is very expensive. A sudden rush of potential donors can cause problems with funds, and regrettably cause people to be turned away on occasion. I just hope it doesn't put them off trying again.

Janh, Of course you can call me Jenny

This has reminded me to register on the NHS donor list - both for myself and dh. Now done!

We have discussed donation of organs from the children, and while we would like to think that we would say yes, everything is subject to change should the circumstances ever arise. Hopefully, we would be strong enough to see it through and help out other families. But this is something I don't think you can be definite on until it happens.