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Accidently killed my dds gerbil :(

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charliecat · 23/07/2004 19:45

Today I let dds gerbils out for a run and when I was catching the second one I pushed the door shut and he dived under it then had a mad fit and was bleeding from his ear and he died about 20 seconds later.
I have been crying on and off all afternoon and cant get it out of my head.
DD was crying too, when she realised, and said she wanted another one.
I cant face getting the other one out of its cage and the thought of shopping for a new one makes me feel evil.
Sympathy please

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edam · 23/07/2004 19:53

Oh Charliecat I am sorry. How miserable.
Would it help dd if you buried the gerbil in the garden, if you've got one?
You aren't the only person to do something like this and won't be the last either . Someone I used to work with killed his daughters' kitten by treading on it in his haste to get to work (dark corridor) .

Chandra · 23/07/2004 19:54

Charlicat, sorry to hear that. You must be feeling awful.

HAve you considered a gerbil funeral? Stupid as it may seem that may help you both to feel better. I did one for my hamster when I was 10 and definitively felt much better afterwards, I placed him inside of a little box and covered with a kleenex and buried him in the garden (I also invited my friends to say good bye). I felt much better afterwards.

{{{hugs{}}}}

bran · 23/07/2004 19:54

It's just horrible to see another living thing die isn't it. Are you going to have a proper funeral for it with your dd? When our pets died when I was a child we always buried them in the garden and planted something above them, like a bulb, so that we could think happy thoughts about them when it flowered.

Don't blame yourself, it's really, really sad but accidents just happen, and at least he died quickly.

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charliecat · 23/07/2004 19:56

Got Neighbour to whisk fitting gerby off me and just as I was passing him over he passed away (ran out the house screaming help me help me!) Neighbour buried him next to his wee kittens. Told dd this, maybe tommorow we will paint a stone or something to put on his grave.
DD was sitting on the loo crying after id typed first message, ive settled her into setting up her dolls house to try and amuse her brain on other things.

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charliecat · 23/07/2004 20:54

Glad to hear its not just me whos a complete edjit. DD is now in bed and dp is reading dds a story. Ive cryed some more, so has she and tommorow we are going to find a big stone and paint it to put on Stuarts grave.
She keeps saying I miss him so much and I asked how she knew hed died and she said because I heard you shouting "Help".
Gutted

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happycat · 23/07/2004 23:01

Charliecat you poor thing.Funny how children are not that bothered sometimes though.She says she wanted another one straight afterwards so she won't hold it against you.One of our cats killed my ds hamster once we had only had him 2 weeks and he managed to escape from his cage.I feel o.k about it now.A friend of mine was looking after his girlfriends hamster while she was away and he left the cage open by acciedent only trouble was it was on top of a gerbils cage and it was not a pretty site the next day.These things happen please don't feel bad.

cazzybabs · 23/07/2004 23:27

When I was about 8 - my hamster escaped from its cage in my bedroom (well I didn't shut the cage door properly no doubt). Anwyay in between the time my mum and I spent looking for it it had got under the floorboards and had fallen through a tiny hole in the ceiling in to the lounge. It fell onto the sofa and survived the fall. What it did not survive was the fact the lounge was the one room the cat had been locked into.

I am sure the gerbil didn't suffer and think of it as the circle of life.

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charliecat · 24/07/2004 00:35

Well dp has been completely unsympathetic so now my tears for mr gerby have turned into rage over that. Can only be a good thing as I feel better raging and unable to sleep about that than I did about feeling hellish over the gerby. Thanks folks. Feel better for typing about it.

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twogorgeousboys · 24/07/2004 00:38

(((((((hugs))))))))) and sympathy Charliecat.

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charliecat · 24/07/2004 00:40

Thank You. Feel like swearing!

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twogorgeousboys · 24/07/2004 00:44

Is dp telling you to forget about it?

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charliecat · 24/07/2004 00:46

He hasnt said ANYTHING I was lying in bed sniffling and crying and trying to a) Read a book and b)watch the tv, neither distracting my brain enough to forget and he was just sat on here.
He did look over a few times but didnt comment.
Then out of the blue said "Are you ok" and I said " No not really" and he still said/did nothing. Well Pissed Off

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charliecat · 24/07/2004 00:47

Thank You for listening im crying again but now because its sad that some stranger on the pc is asking and not my dp Thanks

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twogorgeousboys · 24/07/2004 00:50

Awww, you needed a big hug (Iknow I would, along with a large brandy.

Do you feel able to tell him that you feel BLOODY AWFUL and need a bucketload of sympathy and support - ie, he needs to get a bit more animated about this?

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charliecat · 24/07/2004 00:52

I would but the (here comes the sweary bit) B* FELL ASLEEP. GGGrrr.

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twogorgeousboys · 24/07/2004 01:01

bllcks!!!!!!!!!!!!

My dh is very good at "getting things of his chest" last thing at night, then going off to sleep, snoring loudly, leaving me unable to sleep, worrying about all the issues he's brought up!

Charliecat, you've had a traumatic day. If you need to carry on crying to let it out, then do.

Pixiepod · 24/07/2004 01:02

Some men can be useless with this type of situation. When I took the cat to be put down two years ago, my dp got into a strop because I didn't ring him to say I was on my way back because he wanted to have dinner ready for when I arrived home. Tried to explain I was too upset to phone from the vet's and just wanted to get back as quickly as possible, also thanked him for the thought, but ended up having an argument about it and sat crying in the bathroom on my own . Sometimes they just don't know what to say. Perhaps it's because there's nothing they can actually do about it after the event when of course even a heartfelt hug would suffice !!!

Hope you feel better soon ((( ))) it wasn't your fault.

twogorgeousboys · 24/07/2004 01:05

Got to go to bed now Charliecat. Let us know how you are tomorrow if you can. Night night xxx

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charliecat · 24/07/2004 01:07

Well im off to sleep on the sofa, whats niggling me is he was cuddled in last night when he wanted his leg over. Hes working tommorow and im going out. Think im going to disapeer for a few hours. Might give him something to think about. Might leave a note saying Thanks for being so kind to me, you were a great support. Sarcasm suits me!
TGB are you sure we dont have the same dp?
And oh yes, know *exactly what you mean PP. Night nitex And Thanks again!

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charliecat · 24/07/2004 01:08

Crossed posts night nightx

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Chandra · 24/07/2004 01:09

Something I have noticed is that when men feel bad about something they want to be left alone, we like to talk but they in all their manliness end up thinking we just need a bit of space , so if he is not too unsympathetic and cared for dear gerby, wake him up and tell him you need to talk about today's accident (I sometimes even instruct DH if I need a hug, a pat on the back or some very nice holidays abroad when I feel sad about something, he just doesn't get it!!!).

Chandra · 24/07/2004 01:12

(...Chandra suddenly realises she is the last one to go so she turns Mumsnet's lights off and goes to sleep) Night night

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charliecat · 24/07/2004 01:13

Ta, Chandra, but cant do that I was in bed crying ffs, how more obvious can ones need for a bit of support be, he may be a man but hes not bloody stupid. And I dont cry over nothing. I am totally gutted about what happened. No, sarcastic note will suffice me thinks.
Ill be just as nice as he was tonight.

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charliecat · 24/07/2004 01:14

Yes me too must go, eyes hurt madly, sleeptightx

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