RSVP for wedding - do I have to rsvp if I don't go?

[EmeraldGreen]

And if so, how do I? Never had to before. Thanks x

yes, to say you are not going ,send back the card, if one is included or buy a nice notelet and thank them for the invite but sorry you cannot go

Yes... tell them you cannot go, otherwise they will be chasing you for a reply when the deadline gets close.

Agree with lulumama...

yes - they won't know that you are not coming they might think you are but have forgotten. It will help with planning.

If you don't let them know they won't know whether you've received the invitation or not, and might think you're just ignoring them. Just drop them a nice card - you can buy "no thanks" cards just as you can acceptance cards.

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Have you been invited to the Ponsonby-Smythe wedding too? Excellent!

Yes! Just quick note, sorry we can't make it blah blah hope you have a lovely day blah we will be thinking of you blah blah

Completely slipped my mind I would have to let them know no aswell as yes Oh well. Hate writing formal notes.

Yah! Super.
Jeremy (Jezza) and I used to break wind for our college.

Full on formal is basically repeat the entire invite -

"EmeraldGreen thanks Mr & Mrs SlightlyOrangey for their invitation to the marriage of their daughter Mango to the Honourable George Chinless-Wonder Esq at St Glossops Church, Crocington on May 27th at 2 o'clock and afterwards at Fruitbowl Manor, and much regrets that she must decline."

No signature.

you can get special cards in clintons etc that say thankyou for the invitation but you are unable to attend. you just fill in the gap for your name. easy.

Yes, ofcourse you do, but I'm not sure if you still have to give them a present. Anyone????

Present is purely by choice. Gosh, if you had to give a present just because you were invited, people would invite hundreds of guests!

You're supposed to give them a present even if you don't go. No-one's going to notice if you don't, tbh, unless it's your daughter or something.

x post viscountess - i'm pretty sure you're supposed to - i thought that was why people invited hundreds of guests!

Wish I'd thought of that when I was getting married, I'd have invited all the relatives in Australia.

Oh really CF? Wow, I owe a few people presents then. Actually, about 60 people owe ME presents!

i think it's fine not to iyswim, but that's the RULE i think.

i don't think i've ever been invited just for the present though, not with catering costs at £25 per meal plus drinks.

No, but as choccieface says, you invite all the long-distance mates etc. You could invite the Queen! Elton John! Bill Gates!!!

Actually, we asked for charitable donations mostly (not as worthy as it sounds, we literally didn't have room for more stuff! )

i don;t give a present if not going !!

I've been intited to the evening reception of an accatintance. I've only met her fiance briefly once. DH has never met dither of them. We only know a cluple of other people who might be going. DH would be bored stiff, so I'm inclined to decline, but feel I should give them something from the weeding list.(I'm praying it's not too extravagant!) If I was going to the full do I'd be more generous.