I am trying to keep new neighbours at arms length, whilst Dp is getting all pally pally.

[nutcracker]

He has just stood talking to next door neighbour for over an hour over the fence.

Now i am not a snob, BUT i do not want anything to do with them at all really.
I can just about stand their little boy standing on the fence talking to my kids but i don't want to be their new best friend.

They have just shown us the piccies their 4 yr old Ds has had done today at a modelling shoot. He gets 90 quid for each pose used in catolouge and gets to keep the clothes.
Oh so thats where they get their money from, seeing as neither of them work, but they have 4 cars and holiday for 4 weeks at a time.

Oh and he has just given Dd's a doll each, new in packet, but most probably fell off the back of a lorry.

I just don't want to encourage them at all, but Dp doesn't seem to know how to do this.

Oh poor you nutty. I remember your previous fear on this. Just make sure you dont get into any conversations other than very small talk.

Poor you Nutty, i used to hide from my nieghbour, im sure she stalked me. Just be polite but always busy iyswim. Hope your all settled in, have been thinking of you.

My dh is like that - he just wants to be friends with everyone. We're about to move and he's doing all the getting to know stuff and I just don't feel like it at the moment. I reckon friends just kind of gravitate to each other so if me and the neighbours gravitate once we move in, then fine, if not, fine. I can't be bothered to chat just because they live next door. Sound like a right unfriendly old bag now!!!!!

Erect a higher fence or plant something prickly so Dp can't easily lean over

I know i sound like such a moaning old bag, but i either like someone or i don't and i find it really hard to pretend i do.

I know what will happen next, they will knock the door selling stuff, a dn of course dp will be at work and it'll be me that has to think of excuses not to buy them.

Am planning on higher fence (they have a dog so good excuse), but have to wait for Dp to get his a**e in to gear.

maybe you could let it drop in a conversation about your cousin in the police,and your best friend who works in the tax/benefit fraud office!?

I have the opposite problem in that I will talk to just about anyone but have trouble getting dh to be barely civil to strangers. Luckily we have lovely neighbours on both sides, so it's not a problem really. I can understand where you are coming from though. Perhaps you need to point out to dp that you are the one who will have most dealings with the neighbours and therefore you should be the one to chose which neighbours you want to encourage.