arghhhhh dd1 asking me about friends nana dying , chicken pox and going to be with the stars

[melsy]

Ive had a thread on what to say about dying to my 3.8yr old dd1 and it all seems to be quite pertinnent especially right now. dd1 has chicken pox and is worried about going into hospital as thats were our friends nana died. I told her that our friends nana was very very ill and I left it at that. (didnt want to add fuel to her searching mind and plant that if she goes into hospital ever shes going to the stars etc).

She also asked last week when it happened were the nana went and I said she went and joined the stars in the sky , so shes told me shes not going to the stars in the sky .

I feel like whatever I say Im planting something or other in her anxious little head.

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is it my awful grammer/spelling

seems busier this morn!

melsy, I dont know what you do say actually. My sister died 5 years ago now and ds still doesnt really get it. Our rabbit died a few months ago and he still keeps crying, then next sentence asking if she is coming back. Dh tells him about heaven but I am not sure this is the way to go, though I dont suppose it hurts

Death is difficult enough for adults to understand, let alone a child

and my ds is 5 1/2

awww Im sorry u lost your sister game.

I have very strong spiritual beliefs and they have changed my views around death and I dont really feel its a mystery as such anymore from my reading and studying.

However Im really sensitive to plant my truth onto her, so it seems any way doesnt feel right at the moment. I think it just seems harder as shes ill and relates that to our friends nana being ill and then going to hospital.

nbg started this thread on 3yr olds and death , for me a few weeks back , as dd1 was starting to ask questions.