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Tammybear is back from holiday and feeling rather depressed

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tammybear · 18/07/2004 14:53

Im sat here watching Dr Otter, whilst stuffing myself with a small Dominos chicken and sweetcorn pizza with potato wedges, chicken strippers and a can of coke. It is my first day as being 20 (birthday yesterday) and I feel like s**t.

I went on holiday last Saturday with my mum and dd. Overall, I really enjoyed it, however mum kept making little comments that really got on my nerves, and it wasnt just about me, it was also about dp. I can tollerate ones towards me as Ive put up with it most of my life, but when she starts making comments about my dp, I think its just out of order. She doesnt say a bad word about my sister's dp, she probably wouldnt even dream of doing it, but with mine, she doesnt seem bothered. I kept my mouth shut, because as we were on holiday I didnt want to ruin it, as mum seems to think I always do anyway.

Yesterday when we were travelling back (yep travelling back on my birthday ) mum kept saying things again and blaming me for her taking wrong turns although I werent saying a word and I cant read her mind and know if shes lost unless she says something. Anyway, I was also upset with her as she hadnt wished me happy birthday. Not even when she gave me my presents. May seem a bit petty but it matters to me. In fact I spent the last hour as being 19 crying as I cant seem to figure out why my sister who is a complete slapper (sorry I dont really like her) can get away with anything (like mum allowed her to drive her car around although she hadnt pass her test) yet me who tries to always keep her happy even if it means taking the blame for something I havent done always ALWAYS gets treated like I dont exist.

When we got back, we went to mums. The original idea was to have a chinese takeaway with my family before I went out with dp and friends. But then mum was having a go at me about that!! I cant understand it, so I snapped! Not the best of times when its my birthday and we had only just got home, but I just had enough. I told her I feel like shes treating me like a kid, and that she treats my sister as if shes older (shes 2 years younger than me) and that Im sick of her making comments about dp, and that she never listens to me when I have a problem.

Well mum being mum thinks now that I think she never helps me out and I dont appreciate anything etc. Theres loads more to this story but I think Ive said enough so far, so Ill tell more throughout the thread. Thanks for being patient

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nikcola · 18/07/2004 14:58

awwww that sounds like my 20th bday tammy, sorry you had a crap time, a big HAPPY BIRTHDAY from me xxxx how are you and dp getting on now

p.s just egnore the coment of your mom about your dp my family do it all the time xxx nikkixxxxxxx keep your chin up hows emmie ????

tammybear · 18/07/2004 15:01

shes fine, had a really good time on holiday. well dp and i were fine, but this morning when i went to the bathroom and came back, he looked like he had fallen asleep so i went downstairs to grab a few of my things to put in my room, then when i came back he started having a go at me saying I just used the excuse of going to the toilet to get out of bed, and now hes being sulking in bed all day

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bbensley · 18/07/2004 15:02

Happy Birthday for yesterday Tammybear

Sorry you feel fed up with your mum. If I were you I would have a break from her for a day or two, spoil yourself rotten and enjoy your first few days fo being 20.

Add some chocolate to the slap up dinner and think sod it, have birthday No2!

nikcola · 18/07/2004 15:02

men

tammybear · 18/07/2004 15:04

lol thanks bbensley

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bbensley · 18/07/2004 15:08

Pfffft

He should be treating you to brekfast in bed not moaning at you

I agree GRRRRRR men

tammybear · 18/07/2004 15:14

he says he's feeling ill, which yeah fair enough as we were out last night, but i felt ill too so its not much of an excuse plus i know hes sulking and hes just waiting for me to sort him out, well im not!! mums putting the guilt trip on me too at the moment. she apologised that she upset me when we were on holiday and my birthday, but then said that i came on top because of the hurt shes feeling at the moment. Oh and I did apologise last night for upsetting her yesterday

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bbensley · 18/07/2004 15:17

But you forget that when a man is 'poorly' after a night out it is 100 x worse then anything we could ever imagine!

Go for a walk and buy that choccie

tammybear · 18/07/2004 15:26

lol may do, i got no milk in or anything. i feel like marching up there and just dragging him out of bed and just shaking him hard. he's really p**sing me off. its not the first time either. he did this back on valentines day

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bbensley · 18/07/2004 15:29

They just dont get it on special occasions do they and when you point it out they are like 'what? why you having a strop' erm hello cos you stayed in bed all day!

tammybear · 18/07/2004 15:36

lol i know, i dont know what to do, as i want him to get out of bed, as weve just basically wasted a whole day. got any ideas?

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carla · 18/07/2004 15:52

tammybear, dinner out at a local family friendly restaurant??? Do you live nearer/see more of you mum than your sister? I think sometimes familiary breeds... well, not exactly contempt, but maybe complacency. Big hugs, your mum should be thrilled that you wanted to go on holiday together.

tammybear · 18/07/2004 15:57

my mum lives nearby, and shes always around to see dd. my sister lives with mum still but what really bugs me is that my sister spends most of her time at her dp's, usually every weekend, and mum doesnt say anything about it, yet when i have my dp round mine (we dont live together) she always moans. and i dont even live with her anymore so its not as if hes going to get in her way. its starting to look a bit grey now so i doubt ill be able to get out, and knowing him he'd probably wouldnt make the effort to go anyway

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NomDePlume · 18/07/2004 15:57

Oh Tammy . So sorry that your birthday was cr*ppy. Unfortunately some parents think that being family they can say anything to you and you won't mind...

Happy birthday from me, anyway.

tammybear · 18/07/2004 15:59

thanks ndp xxx

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tammybear · 18/07/2004 16:01

lol i hid dps clothes and hes trying to find them at the moment, its pissed him off, but cheered me up

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tammybear · 18/07/2004 16:10

be back later, once ive tried sorting out dp xxx

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tammybear · 18/07/2004 17:18

dps up. he hasnt got changed, but he says hes done some thinking and he apologised. were guna talk later when dd is asleep about it. hes offering to go to tescos for me, and getting me drinks and all sorts least thats something

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