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Ds gave his ipod away

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jampot · 05/04/2007 00:40

I think Im worried about ds. He really does some stupid things. Today after school he had his friend round (the one we think nicked dh's mobile). Horrible as it sounds I was keeping a phone count during the evening . Anyway dh won an MP3 player yesterday at work and it would appear ds wants it. He has an iPod Shuffle currently. As his pal was going it occurred to me that we couldnt find dh's MP3 player so I asked them if they knew where it was. Earlier they had been using the Shuffle. They denied all knowledge of either. Upon searching his bedroom I found the box with the MP3 player in it in ds's wardrobe hidden behind some games. He told me that he had given his shuffle to his friend along with some earphones which belong in the car for the rear stereo.

I am furious with him because he doesnt seem to understand the value of anything. I also wonder if he sold his own phone to this boy or another lad in the year.

I am tempted to call this boys mum first thing tomorrow to explaint hat ds madea mistake by giving it to her ds and could we have it back. What would you do?

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/04/2007 00:43

Ring the other parent, and, if he gets pocket money, charge him out of it for things he has given away/lost/stolen/whatever.

Does he feel like he has to buy friends then?

Incodnito · 05/04/2007 00:44

How old is he?

Just phone other parent and say it wasnt your son's to give away and you will call round to collect it.

I think he would be getting a pretty decent punishment of some sort.

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jampot · 05/04/2007 00:48

no i dont think he has to buy friends but doesnt seem to see value in anything at all. I have removed his coveted Dr Who cards which is upset about but thinks like phones/ipods etc seem to hold no real value for him. He wants a new mobile phone which i have refused to buy - ive said he has to wait until his birthday in september and any money he gets before then he is not allowed to spend.

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jampot · 05/04/2007 00:51

he;s 10 and a half but doesnt seem at all clued up on anything. I mentioned to a child psychologist that i was worried about the way he understands instructions and things generally and now we are having him assessed. He can be quite literal and dare I say it, a bit geeky about his interests - he is obsessive sometimes about his interests like military currently.

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nightowl · 05/04/2007 01:01

my ds is pretty much the same. he had a friend who would con him all the time. he once gave away loads of expensive ps2 games for a couple of dodgy sctratched ps one games. i was not amused and i did go round to the mother and told her that my ds was not allowed to give away, or swop anything, not even with my permission. i despair of him sometimes.

what do you mean exactly when you say he doesn't understand instructions and can be quite literal?

Califrau · 05/04/2007 02:22

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ghosty · 05/04/2007 02:33

I would call the other mother jampot, definitely.

As an aside, am I alone in thinking that 10 is too young to have a mobile phone and an ipod? For exactly the reasons you are talking about - they just don't know the value of what they have ...

Freckle · 05/04/2007 07:35

I don't think 10.5 is terribly young for such things. DS2 (11) has a mobile and is very precious about it. He does need a mobile as he is often out and about on his bike and it's reassuring to know that we can contact each other. He doesn't yet have an mp3 player (mainly because he has an inbuilt one in his phone!).

Jampots, do you think your ds is being influenced by this other boy? I know that DS1 could quite easily be persuaded by his friends to part with valuable things as he is quite suggestible.

Nbg · 05/04/2007 07:51

Please tell me if I'm wrong but it sounds like this other boy could be a bit of a bully towards your ds.

I would definatley call the parents and say that it wasnt his to give away.

ernest · 05/04/2007 08:05

I'd definitels ring and collect it, and would reconsider allowing this boy round your house again. I also have 2 ds's who are far too keen to give stuff to their mates, but luckily mine are still a bit younger, so the worst I have to deal with is football cards and matchbox cars atm.

Did you ring?

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jampot · 05/04/2007 09:11

he had a cheap mobile phone for xmas to try and make him feel a bit more grown up and he wanted one as his friend had them. He doesnt actually go anywhere to use it but just teh thought of having one in case his friends want to text. He got his ipod because it was dds . Her shuffle broke and ipod exchanged it. She decided she would rather have a mini so gave her new shuffle to ds (very kind of her I thought). Thing is he does use it when we;re in the car sometimes when dd has hers on. My friend suggested this boy was bullying ds but I naively think they get along fine. The boy does have oodles of money though as his parents are wealthy and he wants for absolutely nothing.

Ive now told ds that the only time he can go to shops to spend his money is at birthday and xmas, hopefullyt this will prevent him from wasting money and realise the importance of what he actually has.

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nightowl · 05/04/2007 20:18

not necessarily bullying jampot. maybe more seeing an opportunity to take advantage of your sons kind nature i would suspect. if he's anything like my ds's "friend" that is.

ds's friend is incredibly spoilt by his mother (not in a material way, she very rarely buys him anything in fact). but she does not discipline him at all, in any way shape or form..he rules the house and does what he wants. his father buys him anything and everything under the sun. he thinks that everything is his for the taking..we've had things go missing when he's been in our house

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