How do you know that admin passed on your contact message?

[rosies]

i havent tried to contact another MN'er before so i used this facility yesterday and was quite shocked (actually) to see that it is up to somebody to decide whether or not to pass your message on and out you in contact.

so how do you know if they did pass it on, or if it got lost, or if the person chooses not to get in touch?

i understand the need for privacy but email addresses can be kept private until you respond?

i sometimes think its a shame that we have no idea where any of us are, without asking... anyway, just my POV and HO, of course

best wishes

rosie

I think it's that fact that we don't know each other in RL means we are a bit more open and honest here. I appreciate the privacy of this site and wouldn't be here if I couldn't be anonymous. Think of all the relationship threads - do you think people could discuss items that personal without privicy? I'm glad MN won't provide my email address without my consent.

I presume that MN may decide not to pass on a message if it's abusive?

I agree with Eefs, I like the privacy. It means we are all much less likely to be spammed, for a start.
I trust the Mumsnet team to pass things on and IMO they always do. They can't be held responsible if the person at the other end doesn't want to reply for whatever reason. It can be frustrating waiting for a response though Rosie

I assume they'd only decide not to forward something if they thought it was offensive. I'm not sure if they let you know if they decide not to forward.
IME messages have always been sent on, but some MNers have dial up connections, occasional access etc so you may have to wait a bit for a reply.
Obvisouly the anonymity is great but this is not compromised by forwarding a CAT - you are giving your address but not learning theirs unless they choose to respond.
I've never sent or received an unsolicited CAT though - it has always stemmed from a discussion in the public forum and then moved to "send me a CAT and we can firm up details/ discuss further" etc.