I hope this is ok here
Bit of a long one but I feel sick with worry 😢
My daughter is in her last year of junior school and I've got to choose her high school. Her current school isn't local to me - when I was working full time I agreed she could go to a school near my ex so dropped her off at her dads in the morning and he did the school run and had her until I left off. As he works evenings and weekends only this was so he would get to see her. 2 yrs ago I stopped working due to ill health but kept her were she was to keep her settled. This bit was made very clear from the offset - he needed to stay where he was - he agreed. He's moved.
As of next year I want her to go a school near me. She can walk to and from school, she'd have friends here for weekends and evenings, nearby for group homework projects and if I get stuck, my parents have just moved really close by. If he still lived near her school I probably would have let her stay (even though currently school drop off is almost 40 minutes away for me) as she'd still have a home she could walk to at the end of the day without, like now, having to rely on me or her dad to pick her up.
My daughter is obviously upset but I do feel I'm doing what's best for her in the long run. I text her dad this afternoon and said all my reasons why I want her here, please could he think about it calmly and hopefully see I'm doing this for her and not to annoy him. He spoke to my daughter today and has told her not to worry, he'll be speaking to me tomorrow and this school move won't be happening.
He is very aggressive (verbally only) and makes me feel sick when he's yelling at me - I have custody of my daughter, no formal visitation in place and he's never paid me csa - if he wants to - what's the worst he could do? Thanks for reading, appreciate this is long.