wedding advice needed

[pesme]

Hi dh just suggested I 'Invite mumsnet to the wedding'. as I spend so much time with you all. I need abit of advice. We are getting married in september. Originally we were getting married in the morning and then having a nice lunch. Of course things have snowballed and we are now having a band etc. problem is how to timetable it. Wedding is at 10.45 in morning so when should we eat have band etc. seems abit bizarre to have lunch and then wait all day for the band. Would it be weird to have the band during the afternoon? all suggestions gratefully received.

i used to work for a recording company here .

part of the main business was organising entertainment for weddings and events. maybe give them a call and see what they suggest? people would sometimes have 2 different lots of music... like jazz or harps during wedding breakfast (is that what lunch is called?) and more lively stuff for later.

best wishes

rosie

Yes the mael after a wedding ceremony is called a wedding breakfast. I remember when working as a wedding co-ordinator, I was discussing the wedding breakfast with a bride and her parents, and the bride piped up 'but I don't want a breakfast I want a 3 course meal' LOL

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Twiglett - like what you did for your wedding and having a siesta would be good fun!! Although DP would probably fall asleep!!

And Pesme - count me in for September!! - What about a huge Garden Party type thing with the band playing outside??

Best wedding I went to had no music actually and we all chatted and got totally pissed - went on from 12 till 3am the next day!

Eat and then have band straight after lunch. Do a cheery all ages danceable band. Best wedding I ever went to was a big catered picnic in a field and there was a mariachi band playing.

Hi Everyone, thanks for the advice. Decided to only have family at ceremony and then eat at 3. We are having a ceildh band at 7. Getting married in scotland so have to have dancing or I won't feel married. Though we have been living together for years, have a baby how much more married can I feel!

Sounds wonderful!! Perfect!

TBH I'd have drinks and lunch and cut the band - sometimes weddings go on a bit long and the older relatives don't feel they can leave before the bride and groom so they find it hard going - sorry to sound negative but less is more if you know what I mean!!! Thats the my honest opinion!

Hiya!
I think a band in the afternoon sounds like a fab idea! Our wedding wasn't until 4pm and we spent all day getting ready...
We had a medaeival banquet followed by a medaeival entertainer which was fun - but have been to weddings with bands before and they've been good and enjoyed by all - as long as the alcohol is flowing!!!
Cheers!
SAM

I went to a wedding a few years back where the service was 11am, lunch and speeches etc were at 1 until about 3, then there was a break until the evening do started. Evening do was meant to start at 7 but everyone started arriving from 6, so things got swinging early. Band was in the evening.
During the "break" the relatives had a lie down while the friends (ie us) got happily pissed in the hotel gardens.
Would that work at all?

At my wedding (12.30pm), we had all the wedding breakfast, which lasted until about 4pm, and then people hung around in the bar, or went to their rooms (it was in a hotel), and came back to the disco part of the room at 7pm. That worked quite well, because the day people could freshen up, change etc if they wanted to. I would say that nothing is bizarre if you want it that way. It's YOUR say, so both of you should decide what you want. Have fun!

A friend got married at 12:00 and we had lunch afterwards, there was a very nice band playing jazz while we ate. And that was the end of it, no dance at all but we did have a lot of fun! (Specially me, being the pregnant maid of honour who almost had a heart attack when she seemed to have chickened out for the second time, fortunately she arrived 40 min later but... she arrived!!!!)