My birthday had passed recently and the guy I've been dating decides to split a non expensive gift with my roommate.
Background: About a week before my birthday, my roommate and I had a bad fall out and didn't speak up until my birthday. I expressed to the guy I was dating that being what happened between us was so bad and she hasn't spoke to me at all, a gift would not be genuine from her. I felt like it would be a reciprocation because I recently gave her something for her birthday.
He knows how I feel and he know that at this moment that if she where to get me a gift, it would hold no real value. The day before my birthday, she gives me the gift stating it was from her and the guy I was dating. WIERD So I accepted but feelsad that because it came from her, it don't really hold any value to me. He wasn't even there when she gave me the gift but I told him/her thanks. I then asked (start of the problem) whose idea was it to split gifts... I asked because my roommate and I had a talk before about a gift not holding the same weight if it's shared. I also spoke to her before about my excitement because he's been saying he wanted to do something nice for me.
I began to think he possibly asked her for advice on what to give me because I know he's not a gift giver I help choose others gifts . Being that we had a good friendship and spoke a lot on things in relationships, my roommate should have known NOT to share a gift. Could've given him an idea. She wouldn't like if her only gift was something cheap split between her boyfriend and I (Imagine the only gift you receive on your birthday is a gift split between a roommate who's recently disrespected you and someone you're dating)
I'm not saying a gift has to be expensive but it's easily read that no thought was put into the gift whatsoever. I have very sensitive skin so it's rare that I wear jewelry and that's what it was. Even if he just bought a bear, planned a day that involves NO MONEY, I didn't care, I just wanted some thought in it so the present feels empty to me. It was a gift receipt dated the day before I got the gift which means it was last minute, I don't feel like it was any thought put into it.
He's mad at me now because I questioned why he split it with her. He says sometimes I just need to be happy. I know you should be grateful to receive any gift. But 1. He wasn't there when I got the gift. 2. The last time the person who's physically giving me the gift interacted, I was getting disrespected. 3. He knows everything and still decided to split with her if ANYBODY.
So right now, I feel ungrateful but in the same notion, I feel like I'm not being listened to. I want to love this bracelet so much but can't. This would've been his first gift for me so I expected it to be something from just him. Idk, I think I should've kept my mouth closed now. He's not talking to me.