I’m 20, sisters are 18 and 12. When I was 14, I found explicit messages my dad had sent to another woman at his works, my mum found out and ended it. After 6 months she took him back because she ‘didn’t want to break up the family’. 1 year later, the situation happened again and after that it happened again and she ended it for good (this was 3 years ago).
During the past 3 years, I don’t have much to do with my dad, I see/speak to him when I have to but that’s about it. He’s got used to being on his own and is happy being a ‘part time dad’. Me and my sisters never forgave him for what he did.
Last spring, she met a new guy who she was with for about 3 months. During this time, my dad had also met somebody else. Whilst they were both seeing these new people, they had been having ‘secret meet ups’ to discuss how they still love each other and want to get back together. We found out via a letter my mum had wrote because she knew how we would react to the news.
I tried so hard to understand why she would take him back but I just couldn’t get my head around it, he had broke our family up and here we were again with my mum not knowing what she wanted.
She continued to see him, he said he didn’t care how we felt, he just wanted her back. After a few weeks, she told him she will always love him but she’s not in love with him anymore and said she had to give the relationship another go just in case there still was something there (again, couldn’t get my head around it).
Since then they haven’t got back together (luckily) but they’ve been hanging out together, going out for coffee, going the cinema, having ‘film days’ in our home. It doesn’t matter how much we say it’s weird for us, they continue to do it. I know his intentions are different to hers and he’s very clever when it comes to how he does things but she doesn’t seem to see it.
She continuously talks about him behind his back and we’re the ones who have to listen to it. We’ve told her how we feel but they still carry on.
Are we being unreasonable or do you think we have a right to be frustrated about this?
Thank you !!