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She (MIL) has managed to upset me YET again...

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ComeOVeneer · 27/03/2007 13:20

As many of you know I don't have a great relationship with MIL. I received a phone call this morning from DH's cousin's partner (who is a good friend of mine). Now she propably should have kept it to herself, but that is another matter. Apparently she wasat a gathering on Sunday and my IL's where there too. Apparently she heard MIL talking to someone else and she was saying, "COv has really landed with her bum in the butter marrying * (DH's name). Here she is living in a big expensive house he bought and allows her to be a lady of leisure".

Now the facts (and she nows them) are

  1. I worked hard to support dh through his training, paid the rent, bought the food etc etc when he wasn't earning.
  2. It was an inheritance from my side of the family that gave us the deposit to get on the property ladder.
  3. Up until dd was born I worked full time, then 3 days a week, and have only been a SAHM since November.
  4. I have a boisterous 2 year old and a 5 year old and do all my own cooking, cleaning, shopping, childcare etc etc, so hardly a lady of leisure.

I am really upset about her comments, and can't understand why she constantly makes these kind of commentsaboutme to others and .

Anyway, rant over.

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saadia · 27/03/2007 13:23

on your behalf

ImmiesMum · 27/03/2007 13:23

MILs can't live with them...
not allowed to shoot them .
for you x
She sounds like a cow.

ShowOfHands · 27/03/2007 13:32

And let me guess, if you were out working full time you'd be neglecting the children or neglecting DH or some such random, invented transgression?

I can only sympathise. Why can't she be happy that her son is happy? Poor you, am on your behalf.

MamaG · 27/03/2007 13:34

what an old jealous bitch

wildwoman · 27/03/2007 13:37

my MIL is the same, when I wasn't working she used to go on about how she always supported her hubby by working. So I got a job, then she starts with the whole "well I was just happy to be a mum to my kids" so I quit my job. Now I'm not supporting him. AARRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!

mumto3girls · 27/03/2007 13:39

Hmmm...sounds like jealousy to me. You and DH have probably got a lot more than she had at your age and she probably just wants people to think it's more down to her precious son than you as it makes her fel better...?

Insecure cow is what she sounds like.

harpsichordcarrier · 27/03/2007 13:41

argh, how irritating.
hold on though aren't you one of those clever dentist types? seems to me like he landed with his arse in the butter marrying you
(great expression btw)

TinyGang · 27/03/2007 13:46

Lol at 'bum in the butter' though

That is SOOO annoying though and you can't retaliate cos you weren't even there. Good old MIL's!

Can't you offer her a little friendly scale and polish? Get her in your chair CoV and spark up that drill

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ComeOVeneer · 27/03/2007 13:47

What pisses me off is despite what she personlly feels about me, I am the mother of her grandchildren and surelyas such deserve some respect?!?!

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ComeOVeneer · 27/03/2007 14:09

And can you email me directions please?

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ComeOVeneer · 27/03/2007 14:10

Oops wrong thread .

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hunkermunker · 27/03/2007 14:11

I'd be SO tempted to phone her, say in a very distant voice, "Please don't use such vulgar expressions about me. It does get back to me, you know".

on your behalf though!

DarrellRivers · 27/03/2007 14:12

Maybe she just says the stuff and deep deep down she really cares about you( you sound like a fab DIL and mother to her GCs) and that she doesn't realise it.
One can only hope, otherwise I agree, perhaps offer to do her root canals

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ComeOVeneer · 27/03/2007 14:13

I'm too tired of it all that is the problem Hunker.

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dejags · 27/03/2007 14:13

Silly old cow - ignore her.

How are you otherwise?

Freckle · 27/03/2007 14:17

I get this off my MIL too. I worked for over 16 years before stopping work due to DS1 (this was a decision made jointly with DH).

I recently mentioned to her that I was teaching DS1 (13) to iron his own school shirts - you know, preparing him for life on his own eventually or for him to share household chores wtih his eventual partner/wife. Her comment was (to DH) "Goodness, she obviously just wants an even greater life of luxury than the one she already has". Thud.

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ComeOVeneer · 27/03/2007 14:19

Fine otherwise Dejags. Have settled in nicely and making friends. DD is loving school and regular has playdates (I hate that phrase) and invites to several parties. Now need to sort out nursery for ds and some play groups/music classes/tumble tots etc as he is getting bored of my company.

How are you getting on? What is the story with your proposed emigration?

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dejags · 27/03/2007 14:41

We are due to move to Brisbane in the 1st week of December. The permanent residence application was processed with amazing speed - we had a request for medicals/police clearance in October. Unfortunately we have had to delay these until after the baby is born in May as I wasn't prepared to risk the x-ray.

Glad you are settling in well.

PS: I think you mother in law deserves some silent revenge for her comments. Perhaps a little laxative in her tea next time she visits (sad but satisfying ).

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