So 7 years ago I moved from London to North Wales (where I was born and live till I was 12) to be with my childhood sweetheart, leaving a well paid job, my family and my friends. Now in all honesty I don't particularly like North Wales but it was the only way to be with my now husband. Since moving I have never been happy. I love my husband and my children more than anything but I never feel as though I'm 'home' unless I'm visiting my family back in London.
A couple of years ago my husband was struggling at work and in his line of work he is very limited for choice of employer in Wales so he decided we should move down to London. My family and myself were so excited and we had interviews which led me to be offered 3 different jobs. We then went back to Wales and he told his parents who apparently weren't happy. A couple of days later he told me he had cold feet and no longer wanted to move. You can imagine how heartbroken I was and also my family. Living in Wales we have his parents and my grandparents but I have no friends and neither does he (which he is not bothered about but I am). I feel so lonely and the only person I ever go shopping with or for lunch is his mum who I have a really good relationship with but it'd be nice to have a friend under 50!
We bought a new house which his parents conveniently gave us money towards as my husband loves it and it was just outside our budget. It is the next road over from them and massive, and this is what apparently stops my husband from wanting to move to London as we would never have a house the same size. To me, the house is too big, it will never feel like home.
I just don't know what to do. I'm so down about the life I have, I don't like my house, I have no friends and I hate my job. When I lived in London I had a great job, I was confident, I had my friends and I actually had a life that consisted of more than sitting at home. My children play a big part in this too. My daughter is 3 and she absolutely adores my parents. It breaks my heart having to take her away from them.
I have tried to talk to my husband over and over but it never gets anywhere. I know his parents play a part in it as they've said to us that if his brother moves to America which he wants to do then that's fine but if we moved then it would be awful. When we were going to go to London as well his dad made a point of saying they would never come down as he would be too busy 😡
I just don't know what to do. It's like I have to sacrifice my happiness for his and his families but there is no compromise. And every time I mention it I get "well you'll see them soon". Nobody seems to realise it's actually the whole lifestyle I miss 😢 sorry, just needed to rant without an argument!