I have a 8 month old daughter. My sister has a daughter who is coming up 8 and was the only grand child for many years.
When I found out I was pregnant my mum offered to have my daughter a couple of days a week when I returned to Dave coats on childcare. As my return to work drew nearer she said that she wasn't able to guarantee what shifts she'd be working (she's a nurse) and therefore is unable to look after dd. No problem; I've booked her in to a child minders.
Anyway as this years progressed my mum has proceeded to have other grandchild time after time, often picking her up from school (she's lives 45 minutes drive away) having her stay for the night and then taking her back to school the following day so my sister doesn't have to pay for childcare. She manages to secure shifts around my sisters need for child care.
The situation came to a head this weekend, and i said you've never had my daughter to stay or offer to babysit yet you have sisters child upto 3 nights a week. My sister replied 'her daughter will always be a priority to my mum and come before my daughter, she's knows that, I know that and if I don't like it get over it'. I just can't believe she would say that and that my mum isn't annoyed with her for saying that or trying to deny that that is true.