Hi,
I'm 18 years old and I'm currently 24+3 days pregnant. I am single as not long after being pregnant me and my ex broke up. His family are more than involved and have been incredible, they've shown they want to be a part of his life (it's a boy) which is really relieved to know.
However, as for the dad in this situation, we had been together for 2 years and the breakup was extremely hard on my side as it was out of the blue and a few weeks before my 18th, as well as finding out about being pregnant. He has said he wants to be a part, says he wants to come to scans and be at the birth, yet keeps dropping out last minute, he's basically in one second and then out the next.
It hurts because he messes with my head a lot, making it seem like we would get back together and then tells me that he wants nothing to do with me and that he's only here for the child, however he has done nothing so far and wants to step in as soon as the baby is here. I am a pretty civil and fair person, I wouldn't ever stop the dad from seeing his son, I really wouldn't, but I'm unsure with what to do.
For example, I've been preparing myself, I've bought stuff, I've ensured I'm financially stable to give this little boy the best possible life as to me that is all of what my focus is about from now. However, seeing the dad out all the time, sleeping around and in other words having a ball while I'm sat dealing with this all it really does upset me, it does take two to make a baby right? I hate it because I know in my heart I deserve much better, however sometimes I feel on breaking point when I hear things or see how much fun he's having.
I'm not sure how to go about it. I rarely think about him unless someone brings him up or I see something of him on someone's social media. I'm not sure how I can focus on important things when it's summer break and the next 3 months I will be sat mainly at home getting ready for when the baby arrives, yet he's out meeting new people and having fun. I know it's a big ask, but if any of you lovely ladies have any tips on how I can feel at all better about myself and stop getting so upset over this, that would be great. I would just like to know what I can do to completely forget about him, as for now I've got into my head that he won't be involved so that I don't have false hope. I am focusing on just me and the baby, but there are nights that I sit and feel extremely depressed because of the way he has treated me and left me high and dry, it's a gutting feeling but I'm fed up of wanting to make sure he is okay and safe when vice Versa he honestly does not give two f*cks about whether me or the baby are okay. Any opinions would be gracefully accepted. Thank you.