Hi all. I'm looking to have a moan really, don't know where else to turn. My husband and I have been disintegrating for the last couple of years and I don't feel like its ever getting any better. He does so much that just irritates me and we've talked so many times about things I feel he needs to make more of an effort with in order to fix our marriage. For a day or so, he might seem like he's listened and taken it on board but sure enough within a few days, we're back to old habits. There's plenty of examples but a big one is not listening - I'll tell him something and he nods along and pretends he's heard then it comes to light later that he was distracted by the TV or something. I just feel like if he wanted things to get better, he'd make more of an effort. He keeps saying he'll change but he never does. I've got to the point where I'm fed up with it and with him and I don't know what else I can do.
I'd love any advice anyone might have but I'd also just like to have people to talk to about things. I've never had loads of friends and I feel like the close friends we have are friends of both of us. It doesn't seem fair to offload this on someone who's stuck in the middle and I'm not comfortable with people knowing my problems anyway. Who do you turn to in this situation?
Thanks for reading.