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Screaming girls

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Trifle · 06/07/2004 22:24

Why, when girls get together to they have to scream. It does my head in. We went to a party recently where there were several 3 year old girls plus a bouncy castle and the result was high pitched incessant screaming which one parent deemed par for the course whilst another did try and stop it. My ds, also 3, was telling them to stop as he couldnt stand it either. At a farm visit recently there were some 7 year old girls running round screaming insanely whom I had to tell to stop. My ds isnt too keen on nursery as he doesnt particularly like crowds/noise and he refuses to play with any of the girls bar a few because he says they all scream. It seems to me that some parents permit this behaviour as 'it's just what girls do'.

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misdee · 06/07/2004 22:41

what are we meant to do? gag them?

Slink · 06/07/2004 22:50

I think coz girls get really excited and can express themselfs well even at an early age.......................................... they are kids having fun

misdee · 06/07/2004 22:52

i love hearing my girls scream in excitment. sorry if it bothers u and your ds, but kids make noise, and if they are being loud outside then so what? better than inside a library or museam surely.

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Trifle · 06/07/2004 22:55

Tell them to STOP SCREAMING. Would you allow them to scream in the cinema/theatre - No - because it is not appropriate and not appreciated by others. If you ate out in a restaurant would you allow them to scream - No, same reason. If you had some adult friends round, would you allow dd to scream, No. So why when a gaggle of girls get together in a public place or someones garden it's deemed acceptable for everyone else to have to listen to their screaming.

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misdee · 06/07/2004 22:57

no!! its a party. i dont allow my kids to shout or scream in a restuarnt, or cinema or anything like that. but at farm visits, or kids parties, or play areas etc, its a kids play they should be allowed to be able to shout and hollor as much as they need to.
And if an adult friend came over to mine and didnt like the noise created then they know where the door is!

misdee · 06/07/2004 22:59

and i hate it when my sister tells my kids to be quiet in their own home, its their home!!

mrsflowerpot · 06/07/2004 23:03

boys make just as much noise! to hear ds on a bouncy castle is to fear for your eardrums.

At least with a ds you know that in the teenage years you'll get total silence, the girls will just get squealier

coppertop · 06/07/2004 23:05

Shame on them for making a noise at a party! Anyone would think parties were for having fun or something.....

misdee · 06/07/2004 23:05

no teenage girls will just squeal with their mates over boys, but will be silent if u want to talk to them.

Angeliz · 06/07/2004 23:08

wouldn't let dd scream in cinema or restaurant but at a party-yes. (So long as she wasn't the only one screaming and showing me up

misdee · 06/07/2004 23:08

next we will be told that children should be seen and not heard

coppertop · 06/07/2004 23:10

Misdee - You don't mean you allow your children to be HEARD, do you?? Next you'll be letting them play!

misdee · 06/07/2004 23:13

oh we do let them play. and let them shout when out. arent i a bad mummy

coppertop · 06/07/2004 23:17

GASP!

I shall be on the phone to Social Services, Misdee!

misdee · 06/07/2004 23:32

oh please dont!! i promise i shall keep them quiet and not get excited when playing anymore.

bunnyrabbit · 06/07/2004 23:53

Now now ladies....
Are we perhaps being just a tad sarchastic?

BR

marthamoo · 07/07/2004 00:09

Some boys do it too. Ds2 (2.5) screams (high pitched and continually) for fun, or when he's bored with shopping. He was doing it in M&S the other day. What should I do, trifle? Gag him?

maisystar · 07/07/2004 00:12

just don't let him have fun in the first place marthamoo

misdee · 07/07/2004 00:16

ok, we did go into sarcasm then. sorry.

but am i not gonna stop my girls having fun in case someone doesnt like the noise they make.

Eowyn · 07/07/2004 00:28

I think some people can tolerate this sort of noise better than others. My dd can get loud & I hate it, hadn't thought of gagging her but sounds like a good idea, I shall ask if they do gags in mothercare.
At her nursery the boys are usually much louder tho. Motherhood has taught me that I hate noise. Being with a load of children gives me a headache. So I'm sypathising with Trifle & am now off on holiday before I get too hated.

coppertop · 07/07/2004 00:42

Sorry, BR.

Branster · 07/07/2004 01:14

screaming whilst playing is just a natural expression of the children's excitement, happiness, enthusiasm. I'd say one can tell their child that the noise is a bit too loud but why stop it or deny it in a play situation. after all if a child is crying because that is how they express pain or sadness, none would think to stop that form of expression. let the children be children. as long as they can sit properly at the table, behave in a quite environment are polite and considerate to other people i don't see what the problem is with a squeal or scream whilst playing. and yes, i heard plenty of very loud little boys too.

handlemecarefully · 07/07/2004 01:33

Probably a good job you don't have a daughter Trifle!

I am sure you don't want to come across this way, but to mums of daughters (and I'm blessed to have a son too), you sound like you don't like little girls, which pardon me saying this, seems to be a bit unnatural in a woman. Forgive me if I offend you by saying this (but in my defence you have, probably unintentionally,offended me a teeny bit!)

WedgiesMum · 07/07/2004 01:34

At birthday parties all the boys in DS's class can scream shriller and louder than the girls, and do it more often. Bouncy castles just make them really excited and I honestly don't see why kids can't be excited at a party.....

misdee · 07/07/2004 01:37

whenever u get kids, whether boys or girls, they have a tendancy to get excited and screach. dd1 friedns at nursery do it, some of the boys can hollor just as loud. dd2 has a piercing shout, makes me jump but i am still not gonna stop her expressing herself.

can u tell i am actually a bit offended by the inital post, despite me joking about it.

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