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i'm in a rut

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jinna · 05/07/2004 21:51

i am 35 and have got myself into a rut - i've been a SAHM for 6 years - yes 6 years - and i've lost myself along the way. i feel guilty as i know i have been able to stay at home with the kids and others would like to do this and can't
i have also moved into a new area and i have found it hard to make friends - oh boy i sound like a misery guts
i think i portray myself as a boring goody two shoes but i'm not - or i didn't use to be - i want to go out dancing - not get drunk or pull - i have a great husband who i love dearly- i just want to have a dance and let my hair down - but the friends i've made tend to like the quiet life

help me get over this rut!!!!!

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dogwalker · 05/07/2004 22:05

Poor Jinna. There's nothing wrong with wanting to havea good time now and again you know. You've been a SAHM for quite a while, I did the same but am now working p/t. Maybe we could have an e-disco. There you go, the music's on, you can have a bit of a bop.

motherinferior · 05/07/2004 22:09

Oh honey, you poor love. Whereabouts are you now? Are there any nice Mumsnetters in your area - one way to meet some new people, I've found?

I think lots of us lose ourselves along the way, you know - I look back at the person I was four years ago and think 'dammit, I want her (and her waistline) back'. And please don't feel guilty about being a SAHM; some of us want to be one and some of us (like me!) don't.

Are you sure your friends like the quiet life and aren't secretly yearning just like you and me? And are you and your dh getting out enough (I'm one to talk, we definitely aren't!).

I'm probably not being helpful, but I do sympathise.

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jinna · 05/07/2004 22:09

thanks - i will go and have a dance with the kids

i am also trying to get back to work - hopefully this will help me get back on the social scene - at the moment i feel i have lost my social skills - meeting new people just gets me in a panic - i wasn't like this when i was in my 20's -am i getting too old to just go out and party - i feel i am!!!!!!!!!!!!- the trouble is i need to meet people who are like minded

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jinna · 05/07/2004 22:11

i am in the reading area - any groovy mumsnetters around!!!

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motherinferior · 05/07/2004 22:12

I remember you got worried when you had people over for dinner. Work's a good idea. Keeps me the nearest to sane that I get.

motherinferior · 05/07/2004 22:17

And why don't you check out the Meetups thread - and perhaps post yourself?

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