Someone tell me how to cure this debilitating phobia

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My first husband died of Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma nearly 7 years ago and ever since then I am terrified of being il (not vomiting just generally ill). It makes me agoraphobic for the duration of the illness plus a few days afterwards and I have numerous panic attacks. Since having DD its worse because I have to keep going and can't take to my bed or be by mself for a while

I am scared of passing this on to her and for her to be affected by this. What can I do? Have been horribly ill all week and enough is enough I can't pretend this will go away and I have to be the best mum possible to my DD.

Ok, here goes. Didn't have NLP in the end, he used Thought Field Therapy (TFT) instead. I had to focus on individual events that have bothered me in the past (the type that stick in your head and replay) and he tapped certain points of my body and I had to tell him if it changed my anxiety levels, which it did. I feel kind of stunned because for the 1st time in 2 years I felt hungry, events that have replayed in my head for years just don't seem to bother me at the mo and I have a strange sense of calm. DH is annoyed because he winds me up my pretending to be sick and it just hasn't bothered me. He even pretended DS had the runs, and I felta little anxious, but I wasn't the sobbing heap on the kitchen floor that I was last week. Hope this helps. I can give his details if anyone is interested.