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harman · 11/03/2007 13:48

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hullabaloo · 11/03/2007 13:52

I'd be suspicious too. How old is he? Is he able to tell you the exact situation in which he was hurt? To be honest I'd probably phone the school and alert the teacher. Explain that you're concerned and could she keep an eye on things for you?

jofeb04 · 11/03/2007 13:53

My dc are young, but I would be suspicious about this. Do you know who the other boys are? Can you get in contact with the school?

How is your ds now?

charliecat · 11/03/2007 13:54

Id be suspicious, how did the accidents happen?

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harman · 11/03/2007 13:54

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WideWebWitch · 11/03/2007 13:54

I'd be suspicious.

charliecat · 11/03/2007 13:55

That sounds shitty, and deliberate

myturn · 11/03/2007 13:55

Yes I'd be suspicious. Poor little thing. Is the school aware of this?

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harman · 11/03/2007 13:57

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myturn · 11/03/2007 14:00

It doesn't matter if she thinks you are hysterical or neurotic - that's her problem not yours. You are a concerned parent, and rightly so by the sounds of it. Maybe you can take your concerns elsewhere? I hope you can get to the bottom of this

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harman · 11/03/2007 14:16

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myturn · 11/03/2007 14:37

Good idea. If it's in writing it gives you time to really think about what you want to say and the school will have to deal with your concerns.

Just my thoughts, describe what has happened, both this latest incident and the previous ones. Say that although you have no actual evidence that the latest injuries were caused deliberately by these boys, due to the past problems it's a possibility they may have been. You can ask the school to keep a diligent eye on the situation for you. At least this is a first step.

I hate to think of children being bullied at school. It's so upsetting and worrying for everyone concerned - I really feel for you.

Tamum · 11/03/2007 14:42

No, not over-reacting at all. I'm not sure of the best thing to write other than to try and keep it as neutral as possible, whilst reminding the teacher of the history here. Your poor ds1.

maggymay · 11/03/2007 15:12

I had this with one of my ds's it continued for a good while and the "accidents" involved more children as the time went on, it also had a big effect on his confidence to the stage where he was upset at going to school.I would speak to the school and if you feel the teacher isnt taking you seriously then speak to the head

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harman · 11/03/2007 18:29

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foxybrown · 11/03/2007 18:36

you seem to assume that the teacher will be defensive and unhelpful, is this your experience of them?
I think you should make an appointment and speak to the teacher face to face. Voice your concerns, its not the same as accusing and you are absolutely right to address the issue. Your child is far more important that their opinion. He's getting hurt whilst at school.
You really don't want this behaviour to escalate and you are obviously very worried about it. If it turns out that its clumsy horseplay which has gone wrong, OK fair enough - you got to the bottom of it, but if its not you've done the right thing preventing full-on bullying.
Be brave and have confidence. Good luck with it.

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harman · 11/03/2007 18:45

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foxybrown · 11/03/2007 19:01

What a patronising arse! Is there any other teacher, deputy, head or otherwise you could speak to? Perhaps DS has a favourite teacher who might be more approachable. If it comes back to this teacher you can tell her you didn't feel as though she was supportive.

You are absolutely right in tackling this. Don't for one second feel intimidated.

Write down in point form what you want to say and take it in with you. Use it during your meeting to keep you on track and focussed. And if you do get upset, its because it matters so much, its frustrating and upsetting.

Its an emotional thing - its the wellbeing of your child - its the most important thing. Don't let the teacher bully you!

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harman · 11/03/2007 21:32

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ChocolateGirl · 11/03/2007 21:42

I would be very suspicious. My DS is the same age as yours and I wouldn't be happy about this at all. Could you bypass the teacher and ring the headmistress?

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harman · 11/03/2007 22:00

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foxybrown · 12/03/2007 10:32

Oh, her poor precious boy who can do no wrong, eh? She obviously can't deal with the idea of her son being less than perfect. She's only got what her son said, so he's probably painted you to be a shreeking banshee having a go at him for nothing.

I feel for you. How horrible that its been turned on you like this. Do you have a partner? Or anyone else who could go with you for support?

All you can do is take a calm approach along the line of "we need to sort this out for DS's sake". Try to come across as showing some understanding at how upset the other mom must've been to have heard what her son had done, but how you must both stop this situation.

You really need to take charge of the situation now. Be confident and strong, tell them what you want and EXPECT them to work with you to deal with it.

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harman · 13/03/2007 22:14

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foxybrown · 14/03/2007 12:29

Hiya, want to talk me through what happened?

What else were you meant to do? Tell your child never mind, it doesn't matter??? You are dealing with something that is important here.

Doesn't his teacher take bullying seriously?!

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harman · 14/03/2007 15:32

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