Moving house with a 19mo old and 34 week bump- any advice?

[earlyriser]

We'll be moving house sometime in May and I need some advice. Should i let my dd (19m at the time) stay with my parents until the move is finished then present her with her new bedroom in her new house or would it be better if she was part of the moving process and saw us actually moving from old house to new? Also as baby is due in july and i'll need dd's cot for new baby, would it be too much to expect her to move into a new bed at the same time as moving house?
Any advice/experiences would be welcome. Thanks.

I think it's a good idea to get your DD stay with your parents while you move. I don't know that she'd actually understand the whole process of moving even if she saw it unfold. The end resuolt will be just as bewildering or non-interesting. I've taken DD on holidays at that age and she didn't seem to be distressed about the change in environment. She had no idea it wasn't permanent.

Hi

we moved when dd1 was 18month and dd2 1 month old and it was exhausting! poor you! not an enviable situation!
i found that dd1 really enjoyed being part of the moving process, seeing the house in boxes, everything being loaded into removal vans etc
i then went with the dd's to new house once it was all unloaded and helped her make her room all nice.

She didnt look back or ask about our old house or anything, seemed to accept the move very well ( and her 4wk old sister!)

good luck with it all and enjoy ordering dh about whilst you lounge on a sofa!

we moved with ds1 aged 18 months, and i was 38 weeks pg with ds2 (born 3 days later )and did the bed thing at the same time, wouldn't really recommend the latter - would beg or borrow another cot, or pop baby in your bed/bottom drawer/whatever as we couldn't keep ds1 in his bed at all, and with a new baby you haven't a lot of time for that sort of thing - I was still sitting by his bed for him to go sleep another child and 2+years later
we had packers in - dh was in the states until the day before the move and so it was worth the exhorbitant cost for us, but when we moved again 4 years later still had some boxes untouched
we kept ds1 with us, but then didn't really have anyone to leave him with anyway - good luck, lots of it

Thanks for all the advice, i think i will let dd be a part of the move if only because i really need my parents to help out (we are doing it ourselves!). As for the new bed, i was planning on moving her into a cot bed rather than a 'big girl's bed' as she isn't walking let and i really don't want her crawling into our room at night! I am very much looking forward to being supervisor though and telling people what to do and generally sitting on the sofa pointing at things!