Cheer me up please...it's all getting too much

[pickledbeetle]

Sorry, need a shoulder to cry on, and don't dare phone anyone because I know I'll cry

I should be writing reports and next terms planning, (haven't done next weeks yet) but
my mum is in hospital after major surgery (colostomy) and looks dreadful with drips and drains everywhere. My husband (has clinical depression) and is having a foul time at work but will still have to work all weekend.
My car is in the garage for the hundredth time (I'm not exaggerating) and they don't know how to fix it.

Meanwhile I have to be a good mummy and I don't feel able

Sorry to rant but just feeling very, very down.

I'm sorry pb, have as many MN shoulders as you like. And rant away!!!

(((hugs)))

Hi pickledbeetle. Sorry it's all so crap for you atm. Big HUG, and let it all out here! xxx

Sorry you are having such a hard time Pickledbeetle - is there someone who can come reound and keep you company today or maybe even take the kids out for a while to give you a break?

Phone someone. Crying it all out will help, it usually does with me.I'm sure there are loads of people that wouldn't mind getting the call. sorry if this sounds a bit useless and pathetic; I dont know about your situation, so its hard to say the right thing. But lots of hugs. xxxx.

pickledbeetle, as I know only too well, MN is the best place to "let it all out" as ponygirl has already said. Then when you feel able to phone a friend in a day or two or five you can turn to the phone. But for now let it all out here as many times as you need to, we are here for the good, funny and not so happy times. Lots of hugs xx

pickled beetle - it would be surprising if you didn't feel down with everything going on! i don't know if the following will help, but you could try it if you haven't already.
a) instead of making a long list of things to do, i make a very very short list of say 3 things which have got to be done. it just takes the pressure off, if i tell myself that all the rest doesn't matter.
b) i don't know the ages of your child/ren but if they are old enough they could all muck in and help. mine tend to moan initially, but we do a thing where we all help for 10 minutes very very fast, and amazingly quite a lot gets done, and they enjoy it! my youngest is 4.

i'm sure you are a great mummy - hold onto that thought. hugs

sorry at the end of my posting I meant, we are all here for the good, bad, funny and not so happy times xx

oh pickledbeetle - it's very hard seeing someone you see as invincible looking so helpless as in your mum's case - it's such a kick in the stomach feeling realising that they are as vulnerable as the rest of us. Presumably you feel you can't lean on dh if he's suffering too? Do you feel "let down" by everything and everyone too? (obviously not intentionally let down but more that you are desperately trying to hold it all together but somehow it all seems to be just slipping away?

Now I'm crying after reading all your lovely messages, thank you.

Jampot - My husband is very supportive but is really bogged down by his work issues and I feel I am not supporting him!

I feel I need to be strong for my mum and dad who are still in shock themselves.

I am furious about the car which we bought for reliability which has been a joke!

I just seem to be losing my grip on everything