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Thinking of Taking a Knife to MIL's Throat

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Momp · 19/06/2004 13:17

DH and I went to concert last night. MIL came round at 6pm and played with kids. DH got them off to sleep before we went out.

(Oh yes, when she arrived she said she was starving so I had to cook dinner before getting ready).

Phoned from concert at 8pm and kids were still asleep.

Arrived home at 11pm and kids (14mths and 4yrs) were sitting with MIL downstairs watching TV. They'd been awake since after we phoned.

Could she not have put baby's dummy in when he started crying? Could she not have sent DD back to bed when she came down for a wee?

On going home she said to DD, "if Nanna doesn't see you tomorrow be sure to phone me". We're seeing her on Sunday though. Is she not content with 3 hrs Friday night and all Sunday morning?

Today we have 2 very tired and miserable children. Find me the sharpest kitchen knife please.

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suzywong · 19/06/2004 13:22

what a witch
or did she think she was doing the best thing, I mean is she a manipulative person or just a bit dopey?

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Momp · 19/06/2004 13:26

Wouldn't go so far as saying she was manipulative, but more than likely she was being a bit selfish.

Wanting to see as much of the kids as possible without thinking of the consequences.

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tammybear · 19/06/2004 13:36

exp and his parents are like that. they think that just because they're round and because they havent seen her in ages, they can bend the rules, and upset dd's routine. really drives me up the wall so i know how you must feel

beetroot · 19/06/2004 14:05

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Soulfly · 19/06/2004 15:06

Oh dear, my mil couldn't give a monkeysand we haven't seen her in over a year or heard from her either! I don't konw whats worse.

carla · 19/06/2004 17:36

Momp, dd1 is 5 now, but when we had her baptised her godmother said that she'd happily come and babysit, and if staying up all night was what that meant then she'd be happy to do it. Do you think MIL was just unable to settle them in bed? I know if we had anyone round to look after ours they'd be pretty lucky to get them in. On the other hand, it could be, like someone else said, selfishness on her part 'cos she wanted to see more of them. In that case, although I'd be really hacked off, at the same time endeared 'cos she loved them enough to want them to stay up with her.

Do you/dh/p know her well enough to work out why?

XX carla

ragtaggle · 19/06/2004 17:51

My friend had exactly the same thing happen to her! She has worked hard to get her ds now six months - into a routine. At the moment he goes down at seven and they wake him at midnight for a feed. He then sleeps until seven or eight every morning. He hasn't woken up in the evening for the past three months

Her MIL came to stay and kept going on about how nice it would be to spend some time alone with her grandson. (My friend was a bit perplexed by this but let it pass) She and her dh went out to a film and got back at eleven thirty. When they got back her ds (Who has never been allowed to come back down once he's gone to bed) was sitting on her lap watching telly and her MIL said he'd 'woken up an hour or two before'. My friend was understandably furious and is absolutely certain that she's lying. He has not woken up in the evening since but still her dh refuses to acknowledge that she made it up. I really understand your anger. I'd be as pissed off as my friend and you clearly are!

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Momp · 19/06/2004 18:24

I also went into hospital recently and MIL had DS overnight as my DM couldn't cope with both kids.

DS has always gone straight to sleep for us, but MIL said he kept crying everytime she left the room when he stayed there - so she stayed with him in the bedroom for 2 hrs until he fell asleep!

Once he came home to us it took us a week of broken nights to get him back into his routine.

DH is very cross after last night's problems and has said NEVER AGAIN.

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lars · 19/06/2004 18:30

Momp, sometimes MIL don't think but she does sound she wants to spend time with them and cares for them alot. Babysitting is rare amongst my friends and their MIL.
Reflect on the situation and think of the positive side. Yes I know you had two grumpy children but she obviously wanted to spend time with them and they did with her. I'm sure they will remember these time spent with their nanna and it doesn't hurt a late night once in a while.
Don't mean to sound like im not on your side but can see she doesn't mean any harm from an outsiders prospective.
larsxx

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Momp · 19/06/2004 18:34

Feel really bad now after reading miriam2's thread.

Will try to give MIL the benefit of the doubt in future

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