Rant alert - is it me or is this incredibly rude

[mummytosteven]

DH was on a leaving do for a work colleague last night, and drags himself in extremely drunk with 2 colleagues (marginally less drunk) just before 1.a.m. So far so good. I phone for taxi at request of said 2 colleagues - and they decide not to go home but to carry on drinking(!). I then get woken up by a mysterious noise at 3.15 a.m, which turns out to be a mobile phone ringing - and ringing - and ringing- Both colleagues were so drunk that they left their mobile phone at my flat. They want to come round to collect it, and need directions (they are so drunk they have forgotten how to get to my flat!!, so decided to phone up one of their phones to attract someone's attention. As I have been woken up now, I let them come to collect the phones. Granted that both colleagues live some distance from the city centre, so would have been an effort for them to collect phones over weekend. However given that I have a 3 month old baby, is this is not incredibly selfish immature behaviour.......

apologies for ranting..just had to vent

Mummy2seven, HOW did you keep your cool?
Yes I do think that you have a right to have a moan, I only wish that I had your self-control, I think I would have gone 'ape'.
Why do men think things like this are OK. I hope your dh is going to apologise to you this morning and my advice is to hide the alkaseltza, so if he has a hang-over he suffers
Seriously I am sorry that you had such inconsiderate house guests (invaders) and that things have calmed down a bit.
Goodluck. XX

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I think I would have been annoyed at dh for bringing them home in the first place at 1am. I would also be extremely pi**ed off at the 2 colleagues for thinking that their phones were more important than your baby.

I would let your dh know how annoyed you are and make sure he lets the culprits know that flowers and/or chocolates are called for by way of an apology.

I am ever so soft, aren't I - didn't even occur to me to be bothered by visitors at 1 in the morning - he's obviously got me too well trained - though now they have seen me in my gorgeous ethel austin nighty i'm surprised they wanted to come back at 3.15 a.m

Thanks for the virtual rich tea and sympathy. DH staggered to the bathroom a couple of hours ago, then staggered back to bed, and is dead to the world atm. Still I have a friend coming at 2 p.m. so he "will" be up and dressed by 1 p.m. however hungover he feels :-)

I would go MAD!!!

i hope your dh is suffering the hangover from hell. i doubt if you will get any kind of an apology from the colleagues - they are clearly ill bred louts to have behaved like that in the first place.

I would say it's not "rude" as such, just stupid, ignorant and thoughtless. Just your typical drunken male basically.

Oooooh. I'd be making a lot of noise this morning to make sure he doesn't get to nurse his hangover in peace. And go out later leaving small child in his care. I'm a sadist like that.

I'd be tempted to find lots of DIY jobs that needed doing - preferably ones involving lots of hammering, electric drills etc.

Is he up yet, Mummytosteven?

Jeeezzzz, I would be furious!

And not just about the phones. I can't stand DH when he's drunk and if he was to arrive home with 2 other drunkn fools I would have hit the roof. I admire you for being so nice.

Abit late now but returning phones in nappy bag with the dirtiest of dirty nappies would have been good.

If your Dh is not up yet, got in the room with the hoover and baby hopefully with one of those dirty nappies I mentioned giving him a coice of hoovering or de-pooing!

yes dh is suffering hangover from hell. i have had a token apology. i told him i was displeased with him and his colleagues, and asked him to dry some dishes, which he started doing, then after about few minutes dashed to the loo to be sick! i've got a friend visiting me overnight as well, to meet at station at 2 o'clock. Still we will go out for a very nice lunch without dh, and come back once dh is respectable - i.e. not making nasty noises in the bathroom! i shall extract "punishment" next normal weekend at home - I shall have "hangover" without getting drunk - i.e. the right to do whatever I want as long as it is nothing constructive or babycare related for most of a Saturday! after all if I had a terrible hangover and took to my bed/bathroom, dh would have to step in - so why not have the equivalent baby free time without the hassle of the hangover!!!

have now just checked up on dh in bed - he is apparently recovered enough to text a friend about buses (they are bus nuts)so have told him is therefore recovered enough to help with drying up. men!!!

mummytosteven ....
Like most others here I would have gone bananas! DH just wouldn't dare!
I have left him with DS before when he has a stinking hangover just to make him feel worse
You are too too nice ...

DH has now promised (without my nagging) to give up alcohol for next 3 months (have to see how long that lasts...)

I'd want that promise in writing. IME the good intentions wear off right about the same time as the hangover does....

After getting the calls, mummytosteven, I'd have launched the bloody mobiles out of the window and left them on the communal area/pavement for them to collect !

unfortunately was far too dozy having just woken up to calculate a well deserved punishment!

Make sure you get a massive bouquet and chocolates. And maybe champagne as well - and drink it all yourself and don't let DH have any and make sure he knows that you're to be left in peace with your hangover next day!!

I'd have been very tempted to boil the phones in the kettle then when they'd arrived to collect them appologise but say I was so tired from being up with baby I'd got up to heat a bottle and heated the phones by mistake!!!!!!!

the female colleague rang up dh to apologise and asked him to pass grovelling apologies on to me - she didn't realise how late it was - apparently she then climbed in through her boyfriends' window at 4.30 a.m.once she had got a taxi (doesn't live with boyfriend!

I will have to see if the male colleague feels obliged to pass on a apology at work tomorrow morning. DH is already struggling with the 3 month abstention thing - wondered if alcohol flavoured ice creams were allowed or not , and was starting to get tempted by beer. just when I thought the day couldn't get worse, at an ethnic restaurant yest. evening I was told that a baby as small as ds was at his age would be in hospital in the waitresses home country, and it was a pity that I had not been able to "palm him off on somebody" for the evening....(presumably the local A & E!!!)still with the England match today, suspect there will be more threads soon re:drunk dhs/dps....

I had to pick up DH and his mate from a stag do at 2 in the morning. DH's friend appeared the next day with a big bunch of flowers and some cakes to say sorry for being a wittering drunk and thanks for saving him taxi fare. At the very least, your DH's colleagues should send you a huge bouquet and some v expensive choccies to make up for their behaviour. Or a nice posh nightie for when you have unexpected visitor.

P.S - Loving Ethel Austins! They virtually clothe DS.

I would have switched off their precious phones and gone back to bed.

I would have left them in a bucket of water on the front step.

Ah well - obviously not been a mum long enough to develop any presence of mind at 3.15 a.m. DH's suggestion was that I should have misdirected them several miles in the wrong direction
still taking note of the useful tips for future reference...

It was really, really bad behaviour, and your DH needs to understand what it means to bring drunken irresponsible mates back when you have a 3 month old. HE should have dealt with them, and as others have said, nothing less than a GOOD bunch of flowers is acceptable as an apology!