Stranger photographing my daughter in a swimming costume/tickling...am I over-reacting?

[Notsurehow]

Will try to keep this brief.
In the Summer,DD went on a playdate and told to bring swimmers as playdate's neighbour has a pool and the girls could go for a swim.

DD and her 2 friends went for swim and it transpired on the journey home that neighbour was male,his child was not at home,he got in the pool with the girls and was tickling them,stroking their legs and "touching my butt,lifting us up" to quote my DD.
He also took photos of them.

I played this down with DD but it played on my mind and decided I had to talk to the Mother of the friend.
When I did this,it transpired that her DD never wanted to go over there alone and on two separate occasions had "twanged her bikini" and asked her to take her top off so he could take a photo.She refused,told him not to be stupid and left as she was on her way out of the house.He said he was only joking.

The girls are 11yrs old and the bikini accident happened when she was 10.His daughter is 7yrs old and goes to the same school.
He is the main carer for his DD as works from home a lot and his wife works full time.

What would you think if it was your DD?

What would you do?

Would be grateful for opinions.

Id be keeping my child away from this 'friend' and I'd also be telling the police all about the friends mum knowing this guy was a fucking creep and actively supplying children to go and play in his pool .

I'm guessing you may have changed some details due to not wanting to be outed because there is a strange tone to the original post and time discrepancies...

I find it really sad that there are people like your friend though that even though they thought this man's behaviour was odd they still encouraged both their own daughter and your daughter to interact with him!

I also agree with the PP who mentioned how parents need to stop farming their kids out to surrogate parents . There was a worrying local case recently where parents thought nothing of letting the lodger play with their kids even when he started buying them pyjamas and night dresses and inviting them to sit on then in his bed.

How are parents this naive and trusting?

RisforRaRa

My childhood wasn't ideal and I've accepted that this is an area I'll be "oversensitive" about. I'm happy to join you on the "too careful" side.

A11

Yesterday was full on with social workers and police.

I won't answer all the criticisms but WILL say I did not "farm my daughter out" and abdicate responsibility in any way. Both girls were moving on to separate secondary schools the following week and wanted to spend the day together,I see no problem with that. They had been friends since day one at pre-school.

I now know more.

The man was actually arrested WHILST this was being reported and was charged yesterday (with what, we are not being told). The police were very clear that the incident that happened that we reported was not sufficient for any investigation/charge.
By reporting it,the additional evidence may help them.

Yes,maybe I should have gone to the police earlier and I would in the future. Am I now angry that my friend allowed them to go swimming at the neighbour's house,knowing he was "weird"? Yes I am.

We reported an incident that had happened when we were on holiday abroad. Our story was adding to a body of evidence. The police knew who he was and we didn't even know his full name. He was only about 20 years of age.

Thank god something has been done about him and your daughter is fine, sometimes when there's the possibility of overeating it takes awhile for the implications to sink in, you handled a difficult and confusing situation brilliantly.