Dilemma

[Tiggerish]

My sister told me at Xmas that her dd (18) is pregnant and that is why she moved away to live with her Dad last summer. Our Mum is very judgmental and my neice really didn't want her to know. My sister was sworn to secrecy and shouldn't have told me what was going on but I think needed to unload on someone.
Anyway, she now won't tell me anything - I think she regrets telling me tbh. I know the baby is due around now, and I don't know if it has arrived or not. All she says is that dn is "fine". She won't talk to me on the phone, only by text, and will only answer messages she wants to reply to.
I care a great deal for my neice and am in a position to support her, if allowed to, but I don't know what to do for the best. If I tell my dn that I know, she will throw a wobbler at her mum for telling me. If I put pressure on my sister she will stop communicating altogether.
I do also have a nephew who knows about the situation. Should I maybe confide in him that I know?
Or should I butt out and leave them to it, no matter how hard that will be for me to do?
(btw the baby's father is not on the scene)

Please guys - I really need some help with this

I think this is a very stressful time for niece afterall she's been shipped off made to hideout from the family. she probably feels very ashamed because of how the family are keeping this so called ghastly secret. for goodness sake we're in the 22nd century these things happen all the time your sister wouldnt be the first family to have this happen to them.

I went to school with a girl we were in the 2nd last year of high school back in 1992 and her family shipped her off to samoa, made the whole family swear to secrecy when she returned her parents adopted the baby she was made to tell everyone he was her baby brother oi it went on and on...she was scarlet women of her family. My girlfriend finally told me after 8 years of deniel that little sammy was in fact her child. She is severly depressed, abuses alcohol and drugs and is very promiscuious.

I think your niece will appreciate a bit of support and tlc. Hey if she's still heavily pregnant its hardly a secret now is it if you happen to bump into her.

Leave them to it but whenever you have a chance let your sister know that you will help out if they need it.
Definitely don't say anything to the nephew. You would be breaking a confidence and possibly bemaking the situation a whole lot worse.

agree with juule, let sis know that you care and would like to help but other than that any action from you could cause ructions. From what you say it sounds like you just have to take things very slowly. Your sis doen't sound like she has really come to terms with the situation.

You mentioned you have a judgmental mother, well remind your sister you are not judging her or the way she raised her daughter. let her know you care and love your niece and you want to be there for your sister as well. No point in burying head in the sand its happen the baby gonna be here whether they've come to terms with it or not. And when bubby does arrive they will fall deeply in love with.

Sunshinestarr - My sister is a great one for twisting the truth and I never know whether what she says is right. So I don't really know if it is my dn who wants to keep it quiet or her iykwim.

Juuule - that is what I really don't want. However hard it would be to do nothing I don't want to make things worse.

well you know your sister better than any of us so if you are aready wary of info she's telling then go with your gut.

all will be revealed soon anyhow.

Except that no one will say what is going on. It is highly unlikely that anyone will see my dn where she is now (at the other end of the country)

Sunshinestarr - I think I will write to my sister giving general support etc in the hope it'll keep communication open

Saadia - I think you're absolutely right. She's got a lot to deal with herself.