is anyone watching 'born too soon' on ch 4.....?

[maisystar]

....am crying buckets

sort of watching it. my dh is at the QE2 in welwyn at this moment. i have been in the SCBU loads there as mieow dd's were both in there.

me too - v emotional.

I couldn't as I would be in tears too. DH really does refuse to watch anything like it too. He finds it really hard watching, even more so since having DD.

They are so small.

I watched it.
I thought it was all upsetting but cried when they moved one of the triplets

i watched it and it made me feel very lucky - as i went into premature labour at 26,30,32.34 then delivered at 38 weeks so it made me feel very luck that my dd hung on in there or her condition could have been so much worser than it is.

I watched it. I admire all mums and dads who must go through all that agony and waiting to see. I am glad they all went home fairly healthy considering what could have happened. It makes me feel very lucky to have two healthy children and will be a lesson to me, to apriciate them alot more than i do at times.

I watched it and felt very sad. All my kids were in the SCBU at the QE2 in Welwyn, DS was only up there for a day, but DD1 was there for 5 weeks and DD2 was there for 3 weeks, in fact they were both in that room near the window. Two of the triplets were the same weights as my girls too, which really brought it back, and DD1 had lots of bradycardias and seeing Louie having the same thing was hard.

And it was hard seeing them all go home quite healthly when 2of my 3 have cerebral palsy (petty, I know )

i bet it was hard to see. so sorry meiow.

not petty. just means your human.

I had twins (girl & boy) born at 31 wks, at 4lb and 3lb 6oz. They spent over a month in SCBU at two different hospitals. Although a rocky start, they eventually progressed well, and are now two thriving active 7 mth babies. I could so relate to the programme, especially the 'triplet' mum, who explained her feelings on being on a ward without her babies, surrounded by other mums with theirs. That was so painful.

Watching the programme was almost like therapy. You can't really explain what its like or how it feels, until you experience it. I've tried to chat to other 'mum' friends, but it doesn't really register much of a reaction, when you really need to off load concerns or worries.

For those of you that 'know' the highs and lows of the experience, I'm raising a very large glass of red wine to us all, and to our kids.

I think we deserve it, don't you?

My cousin lost her first baby at 28 weeks was a singleton, but she had pre eclampsia, and they didn't get the baby out in time, and after she had the baby they stuck her on a ward with new mums, with all their babies, after she had lost hers, nice eh??

Sorry Soulfly ... must have been terribly upsetting for your cousin.

Although I think that medical teams are worth their weight in gold, there are occasions where sensitivity is just so overlooked.

Your relative should have been somewhere private, on her own, with her family. I hope she overcame her trauma ok.

I wished I'd been in a small ward or room near SCBU, away from happy/excited chatter and healthy crying new borns.
Then again, it'll be down to lack of funding, as always in the nhs, that prevails support needed for this sort of thing, and of course other difficult medical experiences.

I recored this as I was out and am planning a huge cry-in session tonight Poppy was born at 27 + 5 and I think was the smallest baby born to a MNetter at 1lb 12oz. However my cousin had a baby who was 1lb 10oz (but longer gestation, not sure exactly) and my SIL had a 31 weeker who was about 2lb 12oz.

I started crying from the introduction, have of no experience of this but must be terrible, dd's has a friend who was born at 25 weeks and is just as healhty as she is, if a bit a smaller, never realised this must be some kind of miracle.

His mum does not want to have other children as she's terrified of going through the same thing again....

Mieow it must have been horrible for you....and I think you're feelings are perfctly normal, I sometimes feel guilty for having a healthy daughter, while others have been unlucky, and it's just a question of luck....I think I would feel a bit resentful watching in your place and ask why me?

hugs

I thought all of the people were incredibly brave to take part in the programme.

I had Dd2 at 34 weeks, she wasn't such a bad weight (4lb 14oz) but she was slow to feed and had those bradicardys too, so was in scbu for 2 weeks (came home on boxing day).

Well I watched it last night, and yes I blubbed. I thought it might be more about the babies fight for survival, which it wasn't. It was much more the emotions of the parents that was facinating. I had to phone afriend who went through it with me 5 yrs ago, and we both agree we blanked out most of it.

I don't think I ever really belived Poppy would die, but I have forgotten my friend was told her dd was unlikely to survive the next 24 hrs. 5 yrs on she is a lovely little girl.

The statistics they quoted were really harsh, I am sure I was told an 80% of survival, with an 80% chance of no long term issues. Obviously with multiples these odds are so different, far far worse

i was 19 when i had ds at 33 weeks. i remember walking round my local hospital knowing that the next day i was being transferred miles from home to have him. every time i needed the loo or food etc i had to walk past the next room which was full of healthy newborns and their families knowing it wouldnt be like that for us. it was a lot better at the next hospital though, anyone who was having problems was put in a room well away from the one where all the new moms were. they couldnt teach me how to bath my baby, i had to watch another woman bathing hers and that hurt like hell. i remember looking at ds in his incubator with all those wires and feeling so bloody hopeless. the hardest thing about it all was not being able to hold him until he was 3 days old. not a long time, but it was the longest three days of my life.

I am always so very,very thankful that ds twins, although born at 36 weeks were healthy from the start. They weighed an impressive 5lb,5lb4oz. The reason they were early was due to pre-eclampsia, they tried to induce me but the little buggers weren't for budging so had to be surgically removed.

I was disgusted at how, during such a stressful time, the mothers and fathers had to go to hospitals miles away. Really shocking, I don't know how I would have coped not getting them after their 24hours SCBU check! And sending one triplet away was sheer cruelty. There will be an obvious answer to this problem.

All throughout the programme I was willing those little babies on, especially the boy born to the woman who had been trying for so long. I hope next week does some kind of follow up on them. DH warned he wouldn't speak to me if any of the babies didn't make it and he had sat through the whole programme!

I think next week, just to warn you, one of the babies covered doesn't make it - from reading the website about it - but I might (hopefully) be wrong.

i definatly wont be watching that