We are going out later this week and have booked a babysitter from about 6.30 pm. She is lovely and an au pair to a little girl in my son's class. As an au pair, I presume she would usually eat dinner with her host family. I had planned to feed my kids before I left as it would be one less thing for the babysitter to do but am worried that she will not have eaten and will probably be too polite to help herself to anything in the kitchen, even though I will of course ask her to. What do you think? Should I make a big dish of something for kids and sitter (ie pasta) and let the kids eat later than usual or should I order a couple of pizzas to be delivered. I will ask her when I see her tomorrow, but she is so sweet that I know she will say not to bother about her and I worry that most au pairs seem to earn so little for a lot of work and don't want to take advantage. The hourly rate for babysitters here is ridiculous - 5 euro per hour- and thats for a 20 year old. What do other mumsnetters usually do?