Confused about birth certificate

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I went to buy replacement birth certificates today as I need full ones for my passport application. I have never seen my full one before.

So I gave the details and 2 hours later they came back...no father's details on it but a surname I didn't recognise. I brought them home and enquired with other family members and the mystery surname turned out to be my mums ex husband who she was married to before my dad, this name was down as her "maiden name" .

I phoned my mum and asked her why this name was down as a maiden name and she got very defensive and started saying that he was in the past and she hated him and she was furious that his name was on my birth certificate, I asked why my dads details were not on and she got defensive/panicky again and said "they should be! why are they not there??" etc.

My dad died 13 years ago so I obviously cannot ask him about this, am I just being paranoid? in the end she said maybe he was away in the army at the time and thats why he wasnt on the certificate but she couldn't explain why this other name was on it, all I can think of is that she got confused and thought that maiden name meant married name or previous married name etc..? Tell me I'm just being paranoid...

I should also add that for reasons unknown she will not allow anyone to talk about this man, gets annoyed if he's mentioned and litrally tries to wipe him from her personal history. Should I dig deeper or just leave it?

If your mother was married to your father when you were born, his name would be on the birth certificate as being your father. Think if you're unmarried, the father has to be present at the registration to have his name put on the certificate.

Hi, Im dont know much how the things work but. Dh needed full birth certificate when we married and i applied for residence permit. We went local archive and get this done. I think what they do is go thru al documents ( i guess the didnt do full certificate with both parents name then) and write it. I could be wrong, but they may have done mistake. It could be mistake they put your mums ex instead of your dad.I supposed its entirely up to you, if want your own dad to be on the papre you go and ask, if you dont want hassle, you may just leave it.
Not much help sorry,

Not sure, depends how much you think she would benefit from getting things out in the open. I mean at least your dad's not going to get hurt now is he, maybe it is time to push.
I think you need to consider any siblings too. And consider what do you know about that period, did she have a rough time (maybe PND) after you were born? Esp if it's true that your dad was away.

confused I would dig deeper, its does sound a bit fishy and it does sound like you arent sure who your father is. I dont know what to suggest seeing as your mum is being very vague, but then it could boil down to your mum getting confused regarding her maiden name, if you push your mum might just retreat, but if I was in your position I wouldnt leave it be