Just moved, no job, know nobody (except dh and sons) not unhappy but need a bit of advice.

[figleaf]

I have a lovelly house, great husband , 2 nice boys who have settled well into new school and a bouncy dog. Very happy except I dont know anyone. Moved just before Christmas (450 miles England to Scotland) and now the dust is settling on the move and the festive season I was wondering what to do to make friends.
I dont really want evening things as Dh and my boys home then. I`m looking for somthing during the day, once or twice a week to stop me getting lonely.
Any ideas?

where in scotland are you?

well/...youve come the right place

Welcome and hope you will make lots of friends on MN

How about volunteering to help out at the school or join the PTA? If the boys have made friends at school, could you invite the friends around plus mums so you get to know them?

Get involved with the school - PTA, school govenor, etc. Go for a walk where you live. Say hello and smile to everyone you meet. Stop and talk to people walking their dogs, admire said dogs - and get chatting.

I moved from Kent to North Wales last February and like you only knew my DH and the kids. However, I am now involved with the PTA and school, I know lots more of the parents from having their kids over to tea/play.

It takes a while, but you will only start to make friends if you make the effort. I love where we are now - people really are friendly, but it helps if you smile first.

I remember when I got married and moved away from my parents to live with Dh, Didn't even have LO's then. But I went to the local Church (I am not even Christian!!!) and asked if they needed any help with the Mother & Toddler Group and could I come along and help.

Got to know lots of mums, and wasn't long before I was there with a LO myself.

Great way of meeting people, even if you don't go to the church services.

Figleaf
You could have been me ten years ago - moved to Scotland and knew absolutely no one. Are you in a town or a village? I have to say that I find some Scots quite hard to get to know (apologies, apologies to any Scots out there). They have their own friends and family and are quite happy without making any more friends. I joined a reading group and have got to know quite a lot of different women through that. Is there anything like this around you?

I found Scots hard to get to know... & I am one!.. moved from south coast back to scotland 18months ago after many many years- smiling first does help but also found info on classes & daytime things in the library (posters)

nailpolish, Im just outside Alloa. KTeePee, I went to a PTA meting this week. They have them monthly on an evening at the school.There were about 20 ladies there and people were nice to me but it was a very business like meeting that focussed efficiently on organising 2 particular events. No chat/tea etc. Going along has led to one or two mums saying hello to me in passing so perhaps this will build in time. Stargazer. I was a governor in England. They dont have governors in Scotland but School Boards. I checked and there is no vacancy on this one. My youngest has a friend from his Primary 1 class coming round tomorrow but his Mum said hed be ok without her. My oldest (Primary 5) will ask home a friend next week if I can figure out how to organise this when I dont know the Mums and am not in the junior playground at morning/night (have to be in the infant playground).
Sunita, the mums and toddlers group is a good idea. I`ve run toddler groups before when my 2 were little.
Thanks for the help everyone else. Smiling is a good tip and not hard to do when it is so pretty here. Most of the time I feel quite content but I find the playground the most difficult. Everyone else obviously knows each other so it is hard to get passed the "Good morning" stage.