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Fairyfly · 06/06/2004 02:04

Well i have had the weirdest week of my life, thats all i can say. I don't know where my feelings are just now and i really appreciate the fact i am learning new life skills. I woke up with a man doing bad things to my lady and his pants down, he had broke in. I had invited him in earlier in the night and asked him to leave.

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Earlybird · 06/06/2004 07:14

I thought about you only yesterday, as you haven't posted much lately. Sounds like an absolutely terrible situation. Have you seen the man around since? Seem to remember he lives nearby.

Had you both had too much to drink? Not looking to make excuses for his behavior AT ALL!! But, wonder if you can put his inexcusable actions down to severe impairment of judgement due to drunkeness? And therefore a one off? Or do you think his behavior has got the potential to be something ongoing, and thus more sinister and worrying?

What sort of life skills are you learning by this situation? Hang in there, and stay strong. Hopefully this next week will be better.

Freckle · 06/06/2004 08:39

What a dreadful experience. I should think it's put you off the dating scene for good - although you shouldn't let one prat's behaviour affect you in that way.

Did I read that, having scared him off, he came back the following day? Is he stupid or what?

I hope you come out the other side of this stronger and with good spirit - because you have done nothing wrong.

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Fairyfly · 06/06/2004 09:50

Yes he had been drinking, i won't excuse his behaviour because of that. He may drink again, he was still able to walk and talk. At what point i wonder after drinking you decide it is perfectly normal to force open a window, clear up any mess and sneak around a womens house until you find her in a childs bedroom.
He did come round the next day, apparently i had left my milk out.

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cab · 06/06/2004 09:57

Have you contacted the police?

popsycal · 06/06/2004 10:00

FF my msn isnt working...
will be in touch later today

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Fairyfly · 06/06/2004 10:00

Yes i have

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Fairyfly · 06/06/2004 10:01

Ok miss popsycal

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cab · 06/06/2004 10:03

Horrible situation. Are they going to do anything about it?

glitterfairy · 06/06/2004 10:22

Hiya ff how are you? How is it all going? Sorry havent been in touch for a few days at ballet with kids down in a cave all week the last show was yesterday. Hope you are feeling stronger. Let me know if you want to meet up next week anytime.

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Fairyfly · 06/06/2004 12:47

It is all going aswell as expected, he is out on bail, he has admitted two of the three charges and i have a panic button direct to the police. I will glitter, cheers

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sis · 06/06/2004 13:17

Fairyfly, I replied to your other thread, but in case you miss it I'll copy the message here:

Fairyfly I am glad to see you back - it must have been really awful - I would think that the re-living the moment all the time afterwards would be as bad as the event itself. He sounds really weird and I am glad that he was a coward and ran away when you got up and shouted (well done for that - I always fear that I would freeze).

Be kind to yourself and take care,
sis

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Fairyfly · 06/06/2004 13:19

Thanks Sis, i am trying to relive the moment so i don't hide it somewhere and go insane.

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Fairyfly · 06/06/2004 13:26

EarlyBird, i have learnt that even when you feel like giving up, you shouldn't. I have learnt to stand up for myself and decide i will not be treated like crap anymore. I have learnt to take the control back.

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Lisa78 · 06/06/2004 13:29

Good to see you back on MN FF, I've missed you. I'm so glad the police are taking such a strong stance on it, I hope he gets some jail time for what he has done to you.
I'm so impressed by your courage and your strength, you hang on in there
Lisa
xxx

glitterfairy · 06/06/2004 19:52

Ff glad that he has admitted two out of the three charges at least that means the police will take it seriously and the panic button sounds like a good idea.

Am in work tomorrow. Speak soon.

mammya · 06/06/2004 22:54

FF, have answered on your other thread, will repeat here. Glad you're back, what a horrible thing to happend. Hope you're feeling better. It's very good the police are involved and taking it all so seriously. Take care.

nightowl · 07/06/2004 00:14

have answered on your other thread too ff. what a prize b***d. you seem very strong and together though considering.

motherinferior · 07/06/2004 08:42

FF, lots of love
xxxxxx

Fio2 · 07/06/2004 09:20

I am glad you are feeling more positive sweetheart (((hugs))) he is a complete and utter w@nker

Toothache · 07/06/2004 09:36

My god FF!

What a prick!!

Glad you went to the police. I've had something similar happen to me, but never reported it. Looking back I really wish I had. Well Done!

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Fairyfly · 07/06/2004 11:40

Red Faces? I have woke up feeling really guilty,is that normal?

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agy · 07/06/2004 13:57

You're a woman aren't you - we feel guilty about everything sooner or later. Definitely doesn't mean its your fault in any way.

Fio2 · 07/06/2004 14:01

red face = angry

FF why do you feel guilty? you have done nothing wrong

papillon · 07/06/2004 14:16

Hi Fairyfly, great that you went to the police - even better that he fessed up to 2 out a 3 charges. Don´t feel guilty - I agree with wot Agy said - woman do that!

Hope you are feeling better as each day passes and that the life skills are working for you.

Blu · 07/06/2004 14:21

Oh FairyFly, It's good to hear your voice again. You fought badness off - and you are continuing to fight it. Take care lovely woman.