Is this a bit over protective or OTT?

[julienetmum]

Dd is going to a birthday party on Sunday, the first where I will have left her. The mum is someone I have known since dd was a baby through NCT but she wouldn't have my contact details to hand. The party is in a village hall type place.

I have designed on Publisher a business card type thing with dd's name, our phone number and mobiles, grandparents contact numbers (they are often easier to get hold of at weekends than us) and a line stating allergies (no food ones just facepaint)

I though I could print a few off and use them for all the parties that are coming up or is this a bit over the top. Would scribbling the numbers down on a piece of paper be a bit less naff?

How old is DD?

Keep it simple - one phone number and keep the phone on - because you know she's at a party. And the allergy to facepaint. If she will have a bag attach it to that.

I always leave my mobile number & keep my phone with me. Can't you just tell the mum your dd has an allergy to face paint?

She is 5. The thing is most of the time it will not be me taking her to parties but her Grandad.

I have a terrible memory for faces etc, this first party we know each other but I just thought that ones where I don;t know the parents they may have up to 20 children and could easily forget things.

I'm not even sure where my mobile is at the monent, I will try and keep it with me though.

It is only for a couple of hours, surely you can make yourself available whilst she's at the party? I'd just give your mobile number on a piece of paper. How old is your dd? Is she old enough to say no to face paints? Its not a lifethreatening allergy or anything.

Sorry i'd say over protective!

I give my kids a busines card of mine with contact details makes sense, just hand it to the mum in charge, she will appreciate it if kid takes ill or won't settle.

Sorry posts crossed

Ok in that case,get her grandad to leave his number on a pieceof paper, and tell your dd to say no thank you to face paints.

Yes, I suppose that's it, if you hardly know some of the people. Difficult. Some people might appreciate a card then in those circumstances. I remember dd's party last year a dad came in & handed me a little notepad (well thumbed) it had her name, address, DOB, about 10 mobile numbers, her docs name etc..... & a packet of tissues "Incase she cries" She was fine! I handed him back his notebook at the end as he must have kept it to give to hosts parents all the time!!

Have to say I did take the mickey out of him later to dh...but that was just very mean of me & I am ashamed of myself

This party is a Sunday party (hence I will be taking her) but on Satudays I will be working around 40 miles away and would only be able to leave in a "real emergency".

I think it's becasue I know what I am like with pieces of paper, I'm hopeless and lose everything. I guess most parents are a bit more organised than me.

name, number and allergy then - hope she enjoys herself! (and enjoy your time off!)

If I was 40 miles away I would leave name and number of someone much closer btw, if it wasn't a nursery where I had signed the 'yes take him to hospital if he needs it' form. And no, I'm not at all organised!

When I have done partys I have always had a printed list of kids names and asked the parents to leave the correct telephone number . I knew i was anal . LOL

tbh I wouldn't leave my 5 year old at a village hall type party. Mostly from a safety point of view, but also having done hall parties, it makes it easier to just get on with doing the party without having to worry about childcare...besides they are fun!

I know some do though and in which case I would say definatly sensible to leave contact details, and wouldn't mind how they were given!

well whenever she goes to a party. whoever is going to be taking her and fetching her, give the parent that number and tell them that she has an allerfy to face paint. also remind dd to tell the parents of the child whose party it is that she has a face paint allergy if they are going to be getting their faces painted.

why wouldn't you leave a 5 yr old? i know most parents get annoyed with the parents hanging around cos the kids won't settle.

I don't know really, I would leave a 5 year old at a small party at a house but a big one in a hall I wouldn't.

I have never felt pressured into leaving them either, not that young. I guess from asafety point of view mainly, although I am certainly not over-protective. Just the way it's done where I am (there are only 36 kids in ds's school so always know the parents well enough to stay, might be why)

having said that the last party ds (7) went to he asked if could go home! but I was lined up as a helper then anyway so he was ok!

We run a mounain boarding centre and host kids parties every week, I'm always stunned by the amount of kids that get left with one or two parents and have seen the panic in the eyes of he parent when one kid has an injury and she is completely stuffed!

When I leave dd1 (7) I leave my number/my Mams number in her coat pocket and she knows her own allergies (not food ones so easier anyway) I don't leave dd2(5) as most people don't understand her