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Neighbours are having a house warming party - help!

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wellsie · 03/06/2004 12:41

I need your advice on what I should do. New neighbours are having a house warming party tomorrow night, unfortunately we live in a very small 2 bedroom terraced house with DS bedroom at the back. They are planning a bar-b-que so there is going to be lots of noise in the back garden. Should I keep DS in his own room and see if he sleeps through it all or should I move him into our room? DS is 5mths and a light sleeper (he wakes if neighbours thunder up and down stairs) but I feel that he needs to get used to noise as it's becoming a bit of a problem (DH and I are creeping around at night so not to wake him and we're being criticised by PIL for not getting him used to noise) Really need some advice & courage on what to do.
Thanks
Wellsie

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eefs · 03/06/2004 12:46

that's a hard one - it's easy to say he should get used to the noise but you and yur DH are the ones who have to deal with an overtired baby.
any chance you could stay somewhere else for the night? If he'll sleep in your room then why don't you do that? Maybe in the future you could keep a radio on in his room at a low volume and raising the volume slightly over time so that he gradually learns to sleep through noise.
I think I would let him sleep in his own cot and see how he reacts - he might surprise you.

charliecat · 03/06/2004 12:47

I would put him out of the way because it will get very annoying if he does wake up and wont go back to sleep and youll be pacing up and down with the baby while the bbq is still going on and you will get so so so annoyed...could be riots. I wouldnt pitter patter around him too much either though as he does need to get used to noise.
I hoover in my dds room right next to thier ears and they dont even stir!
When dd1 was a baby she used to wake up if I walked past her room door though...very annoying, put a radio on in the background so she couldnt hear me creep past into bed!

Chandra · 03/06/2004 12:50

Well, it's just one night and I guess your neighbours have been really nice of letting you know. I would suggest to get with the flow, if he can't sleep in his room then move him to yours.

Regarding PIL criticism, well even though I don't aprove of criticism, we had no option but to let DS get used to noise, we have a barking dog and the mediterranean background of the family shows very often, as we are... well... somewhat noisy, but DS was able to sleep through a full thirty persons party downstairs at 6 weeks, so its a blessing not having to tip-toe around, and be able to have a normal life while he is sleeping. It's not really difficult and well worth a try.

mckenzie · 03/06/2004 12:54

for what it's worth, i'd agree with eefs. Start off as normal and you might be pleasantly surprised.

Chandra · 03/06/2004 14:08

We also send him to bed with some music, and once he's asleep, he doesn't need it anymore.

Nutcracker · 03/06/2004 14:18

TBH I think I would just leave him in his room and wait and see. If you move him you will never know.
My Ds had no choice but to get used to sleeping through noise with 2 other kids and noist neighbours around, but he's fine now.

He also wil sleep through most things.

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wellsie · 03/06/2004 15:56

Thanks for your messages. I think what I'm worried about is him waking up and me not being able to do anything with him. He has slept through the night since 8weeks and there have only be 2 occasions where he has woken up because of sudden noise. I managed to get him back off to sleep but on Friday the noise will be constant.
I guess what I'm saying is what if he stops going through the night because of this one disturbed evening.
Thanks
Wellsie

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Nutcracker · 03/06/2004 15:58

Hmm i don't think that would happen Wellsie.

Are they going to be playing loud music or will it just be people talking and laughing ??

Chandra · 03/06/2004 16:08

If it happens, he will get back to his usual routine soon and, well, unless you move to a very secluded space in the countryside, you always going to have neighbours, he will get use to noise eventually. The good thing about noisy neighbours is that once your son starts screaming his head off while playing on early saturday mornings the neighbours wouldn't complain about it.

Jaybee · 03/06/2004 17:09

I think Charliecat's suggestion of having a radio on is a good one, at least the noise will be 'constant' rather than any sudden noises which may wake him. Maybe it is time to do this anyway to try and stop him waking over sudden noises.

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wellsie · 03/06/2004 21:03

Hi, I think there will be music, talking & laughing. They've been preparing the back garden today so looks like it's going to be a big party (although garden is size of postage stamp!)
I think we will move him into our room but I suspect that he will still hear whats going on.
If he does wake, what should I do? Ignore him and let him settle himself (he goes off to sleep by himself cos' he sucks his thumb) or should I go up to him and pick him up? Sorry for all the questions, first time mum & all that plus no family around to hold my hand!!
Thanks
Wellsie

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Nutcracker · 03/06/2004 21:07

Well unless he is really upset then just leave him. If he is really crying lots then just go in quietly, don't speak but tuck him back in, check he's o.k and then leave.
If you make a fuss then he will have reason to wake up again.

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wellsie · 03/06/2004 21:17

Thanks Nutcracker, don't suppose you could pop over and hold my hand tomorrow night, just know I'm going to be perched on the edge of the sofa waiting for that first cry!

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wellsie · 05/06/2004 19:25

Just wanted to let you know that the neighbours house warming party finally finished at about 4am today, DS slept through it all, DH & I didn't and ended up with 2hrs sleep before DS woke up at 7am to start the day.
Am extremely pleased with DS as music & talking was very loud. Am extremely annoyed with neighbours and will be moving very soon!!!!!!!!!!!!

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