HELP - I'm a jealous, miserable, thirty-something year old cow...

[GreenEyes]

Please help me stop feeling this way

In theory I have nothing to be unhappy about: have nice house/ healthy happy kids/ lovely DH' good job/ no financial worries...blah...blah..blah...

And yet I just can't seem to grow up and accept my age and lifestage.

When I was younger I was fit, attractive and enjoyed being a flirt and had quite a few boyfriends, and now I just feel older, married and just so unhappy at the thought of never having any of that 'old life' again.

Two things have just made me realise this.
Two (single) blokes who I work with (one the same age as me, and the other about 6 years younger) have both recently confided to me that they are having relationships with girls in our office, and needless to say, both the girls are young, attractive, with no responsibilities etc.

I can't believe how intensely jealous I feel!! I suppose part of it is also that both thsee blokes are office 'mates' of mine, and therefore I feel sort of that I'm going to 'lose' them.

Sometimes I feel so guilty 'cos I just want to be 25 again, go out, get pissed, get laid and not worry about anything or anyone else the following morning.

Actually - when I was 25 I had a relationship with a 34 year old who is probably now still one of those sad losers!

Of course you're all right - but it's just so useful to hear it!

I'm so worried I'm going to turn into one of those sad 40-somethings who doesn't realise the years have passed and still thinks she's 'got it' like the 25 year olds!

I guess it was also the realisation that I've become the woman at the office that men confide in rather than fantasise about!

green eyes, the young men may fantasise about you, lots of young men's fantasy is to have an older woman!!

Greeneyes, you've said it all yourself really, what 30 somethings and even 40 somethings do for excitement is have the fantasies (but don't act on them). Nothing wrong with a bit of wishful thinking but real life is better

Green-Eyes I'm 35 and have often thought like you, but then I remembered my teens and early twenty's and sometimes how naive I was.

What is great as CHamps said, there are younger men out there who do fancy you, but are just to shy or frightened to say anything.

I am married with a DS, and I have 2 27yr guys both telling me they fancy me, which does the ego wonders, altho I think they just want sex, now like you years ago I would have just shagged them and moved on, but what is great is I get to fantasise about these guys.

I am happy with my DH, but when I'm at home alone, and horny it helps to think about what I could do to these guys.

Dont be hard on yourself, you're still young.

xxxxx