Grandparent trouble

[paranoidmother]

Hi I need to rant a bit about my mother. My husband, two children (2 years and 4months) and I live with my mother (for numerous reasons).

We have decided to alternate betweens parents at christmas and this year went to my husbands (my mother makes it obvious she doesn't like them). Leading up to this and still my mother tries to emotionally blackmail me with ' I can't go on' 'it'll kill you grandmother if you tell her you're not here for christmas' 'I was so depressed' etc etc etc. Now I get moaned at becuase I didn't cook her christmas dinner
I've told the doctor that I think she is depressed and someting needs to be done.

It makes me because I'm trying to keep everyone happy, I look after her house, do all the cleaning and cooking washing etc all the time.

Does anyone have any solutions with the mother or where to get a cheap house so we can move out?

have you contacted the local housing association ?

Would she like you to move out - if not could you use her behaviour as a threat and tell her if she doesn't stop you will go - even if you have to live in a box???

Maybe getting tough would work??

NO she says that is fine if we move out or if we stay. We have applied for a council house. Even thinking about moving abroad as that is easier to sort out.

She is like a teenager sometimes and sulks if I ask her to do something.

Have tried housing association but nothing that is near enough for my husband to get to work, it takes him an hour and a half at present anyway.