I could scream, i want someone else to come and deal with my baby.

[colditz]

I can't cope with him. He's a misery from 4 pm onwards. He is nearly 9 months old. I thought he might have grown out of this by now. but for 3 hours every night all he does is whine whine whine.

UI have put him in the buggy now, I want him to go to sleep for a bit. I don't care if he is up til midnight if he will just let me et my damn dinner.

my DD1 was like that, we couldnt do anything with her and she wouldnt let us do anything except take turns to walk around with her. She did grow out of it.

Mine's the same. He's 10.5 months and spends the whole time I'm trying to cook dinner attached to my leg in the kitchen - it's drives me insane.

Although he and ds1 are at MIL's today and (whispers) they're staying the night there. But I know what you mean about the whining and I do sympathise! I think it's the tiredness at this time of day, it all catches up a bit, doesn't it?

Just start drinking by 5 o'clock that usually helps..

I've got two. A 4 year old, and a 9 month old. They both went through / are going through the 'tea-time' grumblies!!

I can remember getting indigestion on many an occassion with my first DS!

Now with DD, I put her in her baby walker or high chair and have her in the kitchen with me when I'm cooking. I also make sure she is at the table when we eat our tea, so she feels included.

To be honest, it's just trial and error, and yes, they do grow out of it!!

Personally, I don't care if they scream till they wear themselves out - if it means I'll get a whole nights sleep!!

If it helps, try and put him down for a nap straight after lunch, that way hopefully he might not be so tired around tea-time, will go to bed at 6 or 7, and sleep straight through.

x

Mine at about 8 months of age was unsettled between 7-9pm. Lasted for about a month and stopped as suddenly as it started.

DS (9 months) is the same and usually wants - feeding, changing, a nap, teething liquid, playing with, or just holding. One of those usually sorts it

have you tried baby einstein dvds? i swear by them when i feel like i'm going to scream. 20 minutes peace.

mine was like this and we used to really struggle to get an evening meal until we discovered that if we put him in a door bouncer he would happily hang there for 20 mins or so. That was just long enough for us to get something to eat! that said, i didnt dare use the bouncer at any other time during the day in case he got bored of it come dinner time when we really needed it!

Find a childcare college student to come in and give you some relief for a couple of hours, she'll be a new face and can amuse him and help with tea and bath. Whereabouts are you?

Our DS did this for a while. I decided to change his routine from the usual 4 pm start getting dinner ready. Instead I would take him out in the garden or park. Or if the weather was rubbish I'd bath him early. It worked for a while, and by the time I noticed he'd stopped moaning for hours he'd grown past it IYSWIM.

Could you get a friend, neighbour or relative to come in for a couple of hours to give you a break or time to do what you want to do?
Whereabouts are you?

Put him in front of the TV. No guilt, you could use the peace.

Thank you everyone for answering me when I needed you. I left him in the buggy for a bit, he had a half hour nap then wouldn't go to bed until 10!

It's not time for me that bugs me really, I never seem to have enough time for ds1, who is very patient for a 3 year old, but he did get bit fed up today, and told ds2 to stop moaning at everyone!

i find it really hard tht ds2 follows me about wailing Mumumumumumum. It is so cute, and lovely and gorgeous, but I burnt the sausages today, because I kept having to put him back in the living room. If I try to restrain him at all it reduces him to pitiful wails.

Dp was working an evening shift too, which makes everything just that bit harder.

I'm sorry you are having a bad time. The only reassurance I can give is that you don't see a lot of teenagers doing this, so he'll grow out of it eventually.

Colditz,

I have a four year old - perfect as far as the eye can see!

My DH goes out at 6 each morning and works till at least 7pm.. 6 days a week!! Any wonder I have PND!!!!!!!

Have had a few vodka's, so if spelling rubbish, will apologise! Used to be a grade A Student. Where's it all gone?

And have DD2 that makes me feel like I'm going mad and a bad mum! 8 months!

Colditz, would he sit in a highchair and watch you cook dinner? Give him a mahoosive crust of bread or something to bang on the tray while he watches you?

colditz, I really sympathise. My DD1 cried for the first 10 months practically non stop. DH and I did not eat together for more or less that time and it was quite misearable at times. She also did not sleep for more than a couple of hours at a time for months. HOWEVER, she now sleeps wonderfully (although she is nearly 7) but has done since about that time. I agree with the vodka though!!

Dd was like this & it was hard enough let alone with having toddler to cope with too. What saved my sanity was a hip seat and she lived on that between 9 & 16 months. Sympathies - clingons can be very sweet but SUCH hard work.

Oh, sympathy. I had one of those exersaucer things (stationary baby walker with toys around). I'd park ds in that, in the living room, with the tv on... But then he didn't crawl till a year, which helped enormously.

Its the whinging isn't it. And the leg-limpet thing. Aagh. Must be so boring being baby though.

Friend of mine employed a company called Nightnannies for a couple of nights to sort out both her small kids' sleeping problems. Worked a treat, expensive but she was at her wits' end.