What would you make of this?

[earlgrey]

H sent an email to his dd and ds, and, although it's true, it really irked me.

"Thank you for your messages, cards and presents - yes, I think the children do understand the concept of receiving a present without seeing anything tangible."

Blah, blah.

"In addition to (my sister) and family we had Nanny and (Nanny's partner) for Christmas day with a sleep over for the latter two. I survived!"

"Regrettably (me) after 3 weeks without medication or alcohol has regressed and is back to her past consumption. Needless to say I had a busy couple of days prior to Chrismas getting ready - she had ordered an enormous amount of food on line and bought the important presents for the children, but no help at all on the 23rd and 24th.

Everyone has left the house now it is 9.30pm on Boxing Day. Peace."

What a tossing twat. I'm just bothered, that whatever problems I have, he feels justified in telling his dd/ds about them.

Anyone

Agree that I would be upset at his discussing my personal problems like this, but not alot you can do beyond asking him not to.

Agree that I would be upset at his discussing my personal problems like this, but not alot you can do beyond asking him not to.

that's not on. marriage is meant to be team work, not someone discussing one of the partners behind their back. he is a tossing twat. you're right.

Why have you seen this email? Did he send it to you as well?

How old are his dd and ds?

sympathies to you earlgrey

not pleasant to read stuff someone writes about you to someone else

whether he is to be blamed for doing so is hard to say..I guess on one level he has as much right to chunter to someone about things as you might if you were to chunter about his shortcomings on er mn for example or to your sister/best friend/gp

how are you anyway?

Sorry i don't know your backgroud, is he saying you have a drink problem? if so i believe in being honest with my children, he is being honest with his, yes it is your business but if it is having an effect on your h - it is therefore his business too, doesnt he need support too?

My fil has a drink issue and it has affected the whole family.

Sorry if i have the wrong end of the stick.

and with the drinking and or depression, lows situations etc all I can say is try try and try some more..thought you were sounding brighter and more in charge of life of late and less at loggerheads with h, if it's not an intrusion to say so if it is apologise

sorry earlgrey i feel i have upset you now

I don?t know your circumstances, but it sounds from your h?s mail to his children that he says you have a drink problem? If this is untrue then your h is totally out of order and has no right to tell lies to his children. But if it?s true and you have a problem with alcohol then tbh I do think he has the right to discuss it with his family, after all, he needs support as well, and it can be extremely hard living with someone who has a problem with alcohol. If the situation was reversed and it was a mn?er whose husband had a drink problem, no-one would think it was unreasonable for them post about it on mn, and most would encourage them to talk to someone in rl about it.

zippide, thank you. You're exactly right in your assuption.

Wannabe, yes, you're right. Still seems a shame, though

do you want to talk about it?

if you were doing better then you can eventually get back on track again..i know it's hard to feel things have gone back to square one

they haven't really it just feels like it