Opinions sought. Now pregnant, do we still get married and move house this year?

[AnguaVonUberwald]

OK, just found out we are pregnant, which is really good. But we are now going round and round in circles about what we were already planning to do this year.

1. Get married.

We had that planned for June. The thing is, I would be 7 months pregnant by then.

Options are:

a. do it in April - only 5 months pregnant by then
b. Wait till after the baby is born.

The thing is, I really want the security etc of being married before the baby is born but do we cheat ourselves by rushing the wedding, plus is it too much work/effort while being pregnant?
i.e. are we mad?

1. Moving house

DP moved in 8 months ago and we always planned to buy a house together this year. We currently live in a fourth floor flat, so not ideal for getting heavily pregnant me/ baby with buggy etc up the stairs (no lift). But it is very close to work and the new place will have a much longer commute for me.

Do we:
Get established in new place with longer commute for me/moving etc
Or stay in fourth floor flat?

Is it possible to do all this within six months? i.e. get married, move house and get more and more pregnant within the next 6/8 months or are we mad?

OK, we have agreed we will definitly do it before the baby comes. Right. OK, time to get going.

CountessDracula. When can you start?

Elliott - very good idea about renting somewhere first and we are considering it, especially as we can't be sure both flats will sell quickly. So might rent a flat (with no stairs) in new area, till sell second flat and then buy.

Crunchie - good suggestions, was determined not to sweat the small stuff even before this happened!

Hi, I would say get married before the baby arrives. I got married when I was 3 months pregnant and am so glad that we did it my dd arrived.

We got engaged in Dec, 2 days after I found out I was pregnant, I booked the wedding for the 9th Feb in Barbados and then 2 days after we got back we moved house!

It was a slightly crazy and a bit mind boggling to move so fast but I'm so glad that we did it all before my dd was born. I don't think my heart would have been in it as much as when the baby arrives your priorities change so much.

You can always have a party after the baby is born if you want to.

OK, have discussed with DP and have agreed that getting married before baby arrives is the right thing to do.

Thank you so much you have really helped clear both our minds. We were both so befuddled from the positive pregnancy test (still are) that we are having problems thinking things through clearly.

Now we just need a reception venue (we have a church). Have started a new thread. Any help much appreciated.