Bloody scary new years eve - please read.

[Smurfgirl]

We went to a NYE party at some very close mutual friends - I'll call them x and y. There were about 20 people there? They have a house with 2 rooms downstairs (living room/kitchen) and 2 bedrooms upstairs - the front door leads into the living room directly.

Anyway. About 1am someone knocks on the door saying I am the neighbour, and there is a very very drunk woman there saying I am the neighbour its NYE do you want a drink...so x (who is a bit drunk) invites her in which is a mistake but you know. Then y comes downstairs and says that he is worried that this is not the neighbour. And so commences 45 minutes of talking about how to remove this strange drunk woman.

Then one of the guests who is 6'8" goes and has a chat and politely hints that she needs to leave. Then after 10 minutes of her not moving, y goes and asks her to go, this time rather directly. He threatens to phone the police if she does not leave and she still won't and becomes verbally aggressive.

He rings the police and they say they can't come for a bit. I and another girl go upstairs and 3 of the male guests manage to get her outside where she bangs on the door and hurls abuse. Its 2am by this point and we really want to get home but we have to walk and are worried about going with this woman hanging around.

The police DO turn up, and it turns out that she is the neighbour. But even if she was, surely anyone who realised they had outstayed their welcome would leave immediately! The police gave us a lift home so the woman would not see where we lived but halfway home they get a call so we get blue lights and speeding to a safe drop off point for us.

So. It was extremely scary It sounds silly writing it here but seeing this scary woman who I know lives next door to my best friend in her living room refusing to leave was terrifying, I honestly thought we might be attacked. I am worried about my friends living next door to her.

And please please please don't let ANYONE you don't know into your home, fit a chain to your door. Even if it seems good humoured and feels safe you absolutely do not know. A good decent person will not be offended.

Hope everyone else had a safe New Years Eve x x

Sorry you had such a scary night. Are you ok?

neighbour probably can't remember a thing. However I'm sorry you had such a terrible New Years eve.

I don't get it really smurfgirl.

She wasn't lying about being a neighbour and you haven't posted anything about what she did to need to be removed from the house apart from being drunk (but she was drunk when she was invited in anyway).

Glad you're all ok anyway. Hope the drunk woman isn't feeling too much of a pratt this morning, although she may well have other issue's to address (extreme loneliness for example).

Happy New Year

Agree Moon on Monday - bet the neighbour will be far more worried about living next to your friends after making a total arse of herself on NYE.

If we were having a noisy party we'd call on the neighbours and warn them/ invite them to come round. Obviously this was a noisy party with that many drunken people in such a small house.

Sounds like no-one behaved very well and there should be apologies all round this morning.

I agree with you Tatt, it seems like after inviting her in x and y had a panic up. Drunk neighbour probably can't remember anything. I think it would have been polite to let the neighbours know about the party beforehand and invited them. That way all of this could have been avoided.

Sorry to clarify because reading it back it does sound a bit daft.

She was asked to leave the house by the owner for 25 minutes and refused to, in which time she threatened someone with a bottle. The police were rang because she refused to leave - what would you do if someone in your house was refusing to leave and being very aggressive?

She did not look like the neighbour that they knew and so until she went into the house x and y believed she was just a strange woman.

She hung around the house for ages before the police turned up and was throwing stuff against the window and screaming.

When the police arrived she hid and then as they were searching for her she came back and started shouting again, they helped her into the living room of the house next door.

I hope she was just drunk and my friend should not have invited her in, but the fact that she refused to leave and did become aggressive is worrying yes?

The moral of the story smurfy.......is to be at work on NYE, you only get good controlled drunks at work who leave when forcably thrown out by security!

donbean! Don't you work in an area where your patients are unconcious though

i really don't think we over reacted and the police did not seem to mind (they said they had just come from A&E though!

That doesn't sound fun Smurfgirl. Hope you feel better now.

Off point, how did they manage to fit 200 people into a 2 bed house anyway??

She may just get a b it strange when drunk. There are people like that all over the place. My daughters were at a house party in Notting Hill last night which one of them heped organise but one of the most important things they arrange is who is allowed in and how. The door is the key and that probably your mistake last night.

some people get like that when they are drunk, though...
part of me is thinking that the best thing for your friend to do is to pop a note through her door wishing her a happy new year and saying that she's sorry things got so out of hand, but everyone was a bit drunk and got the wrong end of the stick. that clearly isn't what happened but x and y have to live next to her, so them falling on their sword might be the most practical way to deal with it.

I am hoping it will all be ok and the neighbour will realise that she was a bit silly last night, we are all quite sheltered so I suppose for us the police being rang would shock us but maybe not her?!

My friend is a bit naive I think in letting her in, because the front door goes straight into the living room i think it was harder to turn her away when she invited herself in.

wow, that sounds terribly snobby! if she is the sort of person who is accustomed to the police being called then i'd definitely make the first move and 'fake apologise' first.

Hah that came out wrong you know what I mean if she often gets aggressive when she is drunk maybe this is normal?

I am going to stop digging now

aye, but if it is normal then your pals REALLY do not want to be on the wrong side of her, iykwim?

Thats what i thought aich

I have made myself look like a bit of a knob on this thread I think. Ho hum.

Don't sweat it Smurfgirl. Some people do get violent when drunk and in the most restrained circumstances let alone a NYE party.

Shortly before Christmas, my dh attended a significant national work do in a very posh venue in London. 2 dinner-jacketed businessmen in their fifties got into an argument resulting in one hitting the other over the head with a champagne bottle and ending in police involvement.

It's a tricky one but we have had this happen to us. We basically just let the person stay. They left about an hour after everyone else had gone when we had cleared up around them, talking to themselves! I felt sorry for them really. Have seen them around town occasionally since and they seem very nice but obviously suffering from mental distress/issues. Trying to throw people out is always a bit of a risky approach I think. Tricky one!

PMSL at you possibly 'looking like a bit of a knob'...

that was a nice smiley , btw, not a

Oh, I see! Well, threatening guests with bottles is a bit sinister so I can understand why you would be scared.

I didn't think you made a knob of yourself. I was just a bit sad for this woman who knocked on your neighbours door asking to be part of the celebrations and couldn't see why she needed to be removed. Obviously threatening people with bottles isn't very sociable so I get it now.