Feeling crappy and worried

[Nutcracker]

I feel so crap today. Don't get me wrong, i am still really happy about the house and everthing but i feel like i'm going to be/am being given a hard time about getting it.

The few people that do know in the road we are moving to, don't seem to think we should have got it. One of them said to my friend who lives ther, that they knew a family with 4 kids that wanted it. I don't believe them as if that were the case then i wouldn't of been offered it i'm sure, but i hate the feeling that we are going to be made unwelcome.
I already feel uncomfortable as it is, where we are now. The woman who lives down stairs has got it into her head that i have complained about her (i haven't). She had a go at my dp last week, saying that we had complained and everyone in the block was sick of us, and she'd lived there longer than us e.t.c.
Today my dd2 ran out of the block cos she thought dp was back from work. I realised it wasn't him so sent dd1 chasing after her. Dd2 protested about coming back in so i had to shout out the window.
When they eventually came in, this woman from downstairs opened her door and shouted to them "oh, my kids can't make a noise but you can"
My dd1 was quite upset by this.

I just hate people thinking that i'm some moaning old busy body whos got nothing better to do than complain about people.
I know why she thinks i've complained because someone has been s**t stirring.

I'm just so sick of it all. Just because we are fairly decent people, keep ourselves to ourselves and don't let our kids run riot, they think we are snobs.
I'd hate to think that this will continue when we move but indications are that it will.

Sorry for the moaning, i've just had enough.

Jealousy, jealousy, jealousy.

You would not have been given it had you not been the family who were in priority of it. People hate others getting something they havent gopt.

Yoyu didnt bribr anyonr afterall.

oh nutcraker, When we brought our house, we were moving out of a housing assciation house, and all the neighbours kicked up about the fact we were moving before they were, but the housing people told them, that they hadn';t moved us we had brought are own house. I just thought it was really funny that they were prepared to make aa big fuss and they couldhn't. lol.

Yeah but the ones that already live in the road don't have anything to be jealous of as they already have their houses.
Maybe it's just me being over sensitive. I feel a bit run down and tired at the mo, so it's probably effecting my judgment.

I just hate a bad atmosphere.

Don't even dignify this with your thoughts. You wouldn't have been offered the house if there had been more 'deserving' cases ahead of you. You need this house and we all think you deserve this. Hold your head up high, be friendly and enjoy it. Don't let anyone else spoil your joy - they can't make you unhappy, remember, only you can do that.

You wont get a bad atmopsphere here nutty.

I know, try not to let yourself get too down, try to look forward to your new house, and don't worry what other people think. And i am sure it will blow over in a few days or so once they get used to you being there.

keep smiling.
hugs

Oh Nutcracker, just keep hold of how happy you and your kids are about the house and garden and try not to worry about other people. A house will be more private than a flat, you won't be in other peoples space so much. You are probably tired right now - its too late at night to be thinking about it. You'll feel better in the morning. Keep thinking about your garden, and sandpits and slides, and things!

There won't have been anyone more deserving than you, Nutty. I know it's easy to say but don't let those stirrers get to you. xx

Thanks guys. I am determined that they won't spoil it for us, my kids are getting so excited (well and me too)and i'm going to make it as good as i can for them.

Gosh Nutty you sound just like me! Our next-door neighbour believes her dead-beat son (one of them anyway) should have gotten our house and because we had come from renting privately we had absolutely no right to it.

We also get treated by some as snobs because we don't drop litter and we tell kids off for, as you put it, running riot. Well their parents don't do it and why should we sink to their standards and live their way? I have found that if you speak in a certain way to the kids they do as you ask. They just have no direction at home.

Anyway, just ignore any negative comments, you deserve that house! Stick in there girl!