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Don't know what to do?

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hollybush · 22/12/2006 19:56

DH has been on his works party since this afternoon and has just come home about 7.25pm.
i heard the taxi pull up and wondered why he was so long knocking on the door.
Went to the door to see and he was staggering up the drive and then fell to the floor and hit his head.i went to help him up but he did,nt want me to help him.so he pulled himself up and i fianally got him indoors.
His head has been cut above his eye and he went into the cloakroom downstairs where he is now sitting on the toilet leaning on the cistern asleep
i went in to talk to him amd check the cut it has stopped bleeding and he was talking rubbish but said my name a few times so he knows where he is.

I have our 2 children 5 and 3 still awake downstaitrs and wondering where daddy is so have told them he has gone up to bed.
i know i need to go and check him again but i don't want the children to see him in that state.
i just hope he does,nt try and come through to the lounge.
not sure what to do.
DH has always gone out drinking and things like this have happened before but not to this degree where he has hurt himself.
i am siting here shakingand trying to get the children to settle so i can deal with it.

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Scootergirl · 22/12/2006 19:58

Take him a pillow and blanket in and hope he falls asleep... The when kids are in bed you can sort him out properly. Poor thing. Hope you sort it out x

idontlikecrusts · 22/12/2006 19:59

arse.

He can wait, occupy the children as far as possible and whizz them through the bedtime routine with any changes that keep them out of the way of daddy for now. So, if that means a DVD or milk in bed or whatever do it!

Then sort DH out. Check he is conscious and has no other injuries and put him in bed in recovery position if possible so if he voms he will not choke.

WeFrizyouamerrychristmas · 22/12/2006 20:03

{{{Hugs}}} like you need another kid to deal with, men eh! make sure you have some good hangover cures for him in the morning as well, or he'll be grumpy as hell all day.

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hollybush · 22/12/2006 20:05

DS keeps asking why has daddy gone to bed.
he does'nt understand why he has'nt come in to say hello.
the children are still both wide awake and have put A DVD on for them.

scootergirl i will do that.

idontikecrusts-just worried he may have concusion but if he knew who i was.
i doubt i will get him up the stairs.
he told me to f off when i tried to help him when he first came in.

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idontlikecrusts · 22/12/2006 20:15

Oh dear.

By the way, i meant arse re. the situation. Whether he is an arse is for you to judge!

Well, I guess all you can do is check him over at a distance. Concussion wise you need to watch out for vomiting an other symptoms for next 24-48 hours but obviously all a bit difficult to assess under the current circs.

Statistically he is more likely to be fine and just out of it on drink isn't he but maybe read up on head injuries via Google in the meantime so you are forearmed. Check him as often as you can for having been sick because choking is probably the biggest risk right now.

Do you have first aid knowledge?

He can only get more sober from now so I hope the time goes quickly until he gets sober. This is really unfair on you and the children. V. irresponisble and immature in my view but I have a partner who more than matches yours in terms of his inconsiderate behaviour so I am not judging!

Chloewhitechristmas · 22/12/2006 20:16

I'd just check on him a few times and like someone suggested take him in a blanket - don't bother trying to move him, men are like 10-tonne weights when they are pissed! I just make sure my dh is laying on his side then I go to bed in a strop when he goes on a bender.

As for the kids, can you tell them daddy is a bit poorly tonight so he has gone to bed and can't be disturbed - that way they might not pester to see him so much if he is 'ill'.

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 22/12/2006 20:17

when DS2 has had head injuries, I was told to rouse him when I went to bed and then once in the middle of the night. But obviously he wasn't drunk!!

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hollybush · 22/12/2006 21:40

He has just gone upstairs to bed.i tried to have a look at the cut above his head but was told to piss off.
To be honest his is the last straw.
He goes out drinking most nights not to this dergree .

I don't drive and he knew we have lots of shopping still to do tomorrow.
I am now worried about him driving with the children in the car.
Yet again he has messed up the start of the wqeekend as he will probably be in a foul mood tomorrow and i hate to say it but am now worried about him going off with the children tomorrow as he was going to do some errands with them while i did the supermarket shop.

the awful thing is when i saw him fall over in our drive i thought i hope the neighbours don't see this as i have to face them at the school etc.

Idontlikecrusts-It is very inconsiderate behaviour especially giving the time of year and this shoiuld be fun for the children.

I have seen this far to much and tonight has made me think i can't do this anymore.
If he does'nt realise it after tonight then he never will.
All my sympathy is gone and i am tired and angry and what energy i have has to be for my children.He is 45 fgs.

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hollybush · 22/12/2006 21:42

Chloe,i know this sounds awful but i have dealt with this so many times and get swore at i have just left him to it.

Doesntchristmasdragon,i feel like rousing DH with a cold bucket of water!!!

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Tortington · 22/12/2006 21:45

he goes out drinking most nights?

is that right?

tell him you dont want kids in car with him tomorrow and get his arse to supermarket to do the shopping - am sure he is capable - after all hes a grown up.

personally i would have left him in the bog. no pillow and no blanket.

have left dh on doorstep/roundabout/toilet/ pub floor in past.

there is a point where you think to yourself ' erm... if i get any more pissed i will not be able to move'

i firmly believe that anyone who says they dont recognise this point is compltely full of shit.

theres no excuse.

am all for a jolly old piss up - so pissed you cant walk straight - but so pissed you dont know where you are?

i dont think so.

i seriously would have nice day at home tell him to FUCK OFF to supermarket and get the shopping as he is a selfish motherfuckng cunt.

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hollybush · 22/12/2006 22:12

Custardo-You have hit the nail firmly on the head so to speak.
I have read your posts before and have to say you have written what in all honesty is going on in my head,and a lot worse.
I have in the past been known to get so angry and frustrated in the state he gets himself in that i have thumped the wall and muttered "I could kill him"
Of courseI never would ,for my childrens sake.

As for the shopping that's a great idea as I have planned out a detailed list so even he should be able to manage it with a hangover!!!
I know he will be angry if I say I don't want him taking the children out but will ahve to get round that one.

I am so paranoid know that the neighbours may have seen him crawling around on our drive and falling back and bashing his head,he is going to have one black eye tomorrow.
How do I explain that one to the children?

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GoodKingWestCountryLass · 22/12/2006 22:31

Custardo, I like your shoot from the hip style.

HB, try not to concern yourself with your neighbours. Worse things have happened at sea and it is your DHs issue afterall, when you step outside next do so with your head held high.

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hollybush · 22/12/2006 22:59

Goodking-I know I should feel that way as far as the neighbours are concerned but my neighbours are the mothers i walk to school with when taking DS and don't want all the school talking about this for my DS's sake,he deserves better.

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Tortington · 23/12/2006 02:06

as for explaining i go for honesty - i mean if father xmas is lying then wahts wrong with saying " yer dad was drunk...again"

it works in our hosue anyway.

oh and dont think i live any kind of eutopia - i do do as i say - but have gone to lengths unkown to make things right says i after bottle of wine.

WeWishUAMerryXmasNANappyNewYr · 23/12/2006 02:20

when i first read this i thought so what it was his works party give him a break.

but then i read that he does this most nights and that's not fair.

don't give him pillow or blanket just let him sleep it off. after all if this was a child we surely wouldn't reward them for such bad behaviour?

jalopy · 23/12/2006 09:43

I love custardo

WeFrizyouamerrychristmas · 23/12/2006 10:15

Good old Custy tells it how it is
So Hollybush, how's your dh this am?

Stockingsofdinosaurs · 23/12/2006 14:29

Hiya

Just to address the excessive drinking, you need to talk (when sober) with him about what exactly he wants out of life, how he would like to see himself in the future. It might be a new job or something totally unexpected. You should be able to all work towards it together; having small kids is probably the most restricting part of the journey but things will be different eventually.
All of this you are well aware of yourself but men are thick and don't know what's good for them . Good luck.

Scootergirl · 23/12/2006 15:11

Hope he's got a headache today!

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