so does someone you know usually pass away when you have a child???????????

[Nemoinapeartree]

sorry I know its a but morbid but it always happens to us. When DS was born a good friend died unexpectedly of cancer, when DD was born one of my nans died. Now am 37wks and all week been on tenter hooks as toss up was between MIL and my other nan. Both have been to hospital for serious of tests etc this week, MIL phoned at 6.20pm to say hers had come back as something minor. My mum phoned re my nan at 6.45pm to say she has cancer and they think its quite advanced. I just dont understand why all this shitty stuff keeps happening to us, this news is on top of dhs no job at end of jan, generally being in dire financial situation etc and I just dont know what else I can handle

thanks fio..I just think its a bloody nightmare coincidence..lol

I've heard it referred to as "one in, one out" and it does seem to happen remarkably often.

No doubt its just a coincidence but it does make you stop and think sometimes depending on the circumstance sand people involved.

My dad always used to say that someone dies to make room in the world for another person who will be born soon.

Am very sorry to hear your MIL and Nan aren't well. It must be very difficult to deal with espeically when heavily pregnant.

Thinking of you.

suppose I best deffo stop at no.3 then, I have heard about making room etc but just always seems to be someone very close.

Nemo, it might seem like that atm. But tbh, it's possibly because you are pregnant and more sensitive than usual to family and friends being ill etc.

Please don't let it get you down. Just think in a couple of weeks you'll be able to show your Nan her great grandchild and your MIL with her latest grandchild! It will be bring them great happiness, believe me.

My Dad died of cancer 5 weeks after DS was born. Coincidence probably. My Dad was very upfront by saying 'when your time is up, it's up!' - so that was that.
I was glad he met DS before he left tho'.

I'm sorry I didn't read all your message properly to start with. You sound like you're having a rough time.

And by the way, my mum had 5 children and no-one close in the family or close friends died when we born so it is all co-incidence.

xx

my dd was born 18 months after my dad died and my mum died on my ds' 1st birthday. Although strangely ds has a birthmark on his back in exactly the same place that my dad's operation wound that wouldnt heal was

i'm not sure but this has made me think about it. my ds(13) was six weeks old when my fil died and my ds(5) was born two years after my mum died.

thanks all..just feel everything getting on top of me but probably more appropriate to post on feeling depressed topics..either that or will crack up.