DP wants to set up one of my friends with one of his friends BUT.............

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..... his friend is a regular recreational drug user.
Tbh whatever people want to do is their own personal choice, but I don't want DP to introduce them, I don't want us to be responsible for getting my friend (and her DD) involved with a man who takes drugs and thinks it's perfectly normal and ok to do so.
DP says in all other ways he's a great guy, but I've seen great guys turn into w*nkers over time because of their drug use. A lovely guy I used to know spiralled into a complete mess because he hadn't the spine to walk away from the crowd and the drugs he had got himself involved with. One of the last times I saw him was when he called me in hysterics because one of the veins in his arm had collapsed & I took him to A&E.
Now I don't really know DP's friend well, I don't know what kind of person he is (I met him once at a wedding reception when he was very clearly on something) but my friend is feeling lonely and 'in need' of a man and I just think it has disaster written all over it. DP thinks I'm overreacting. It's odd because he usually hates any kind of drug users but seems to have changed his mind over this particular man because 'he's a really nice guy'.
What's the MN verdict?

I'm with you on this one, do not introduce them.

Don't do it!! Was going to qualify the statement but I think I will leave it at that.

Don't introduce them. There are loads of men out there.

Tread VERY carefully!!
Even taking the drugs out of the equation completely...if it doesn't work out for ANY reason it can be a bit sticky when you feel it is your fault for bringing them together in the first place. Add drugs back into the equation, and the chances of something going wrong increase...

If you friend feels lonely and in need of a man the best thing she can do is probably stay away from men, becuase she isn't in the right frame of mind to make a sensible decision!

Wow, thanks for the speedy replies.
I just have a gut feeling about this, but is there a more coherant explanation I can offer DP, other than I feel it in my bones? He's very stubborn sometimes and I can't always get him to understand me!

If I was your friend and you 'matched' me up with a drug user, think I would be more than a little miffed tbh.

Why don't you tell your friend the facts and give her the option? My best friend "set me up" with someone and, although it didn't work out in the end, I had a great time inbetween and certainly don't blame her for choosing to get involved.

Matching up friends is fraught with danger at the best of times, without adding a habitual (if recreational) drug user into the mix. Don't do it!