Should my Mum Look After My Kids....?

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I'm having knee surgery soon (not major - will be out of action a few days) and DH cannot get a couple of days off work to look after the kids.

My Mum has offered to look after DD (4yrs) and DS (14 mths). She recently has had a new knee and does struggle with stairs and kneeling.

She has no problem with DD, but I'm worried that DS might be too much for her.

My in laws will have DS but they are smokers and DS will have to sleep over as they live too far away and do not drive.

What shall I do?

I guess you'd be more relaxed if your mum had them, so I would let her and insist that your dh does everything he can when he's home from work to let your mum have a rest. Getting them bathed and in bed can be his role.

Hope it goes okay.

Yeah, I think your mum should have the kids with your DH doing as much as he can when he is home.

Is there any particular reason why you think your mum will struggle with your DS? Do you have stairgates or anything so you won't have to be chasing after him when he shoots off?

Thanks for the advice Flip.

I would be a lot more relaxed if Mum did have both of my kids, and then again, I wont as I'll be worrying how she's coping.

My DH is a real help to me so I know he'll take over when he finishes work.

Still undecided though!

Soory marialuisa, posted at the same time I think!

I'm worried that Mum will have trouble with DS as she is still recovering from her own knee op back in January.

I do have stairgates that keep DS in the one place (!) but I do have trouble with him at nap times and end up climbing the stairs regularly until he settles.

ok, ultimately I guess it depends how strongly you feel about your ILs and their smoking.

If your mum did have both kids, could she not just sit upstairs in your room or something until DS settles?

Hope all goes well.

When my Mum has my DSs the nap times and routines go out the window a bit I think. I guess is doesn't matter too much though as it's a bit of a treat for them for all of them. Last time DS1 stayed over at my Mums, she didn't out him to bed until 10pm (God knows why - I think she thought he would definitely sleep). He woke up at 5am and didn't go back to sleep! I laughed......alot

Can the in laws come and stay with you? then you could ask them to smoke outside? Or any chance DH could work from home then he could be on hand if there's any problems?