Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Other subjects

Life: Planning for the year ahead

23 replies

hub2dee · 18/12/2006 17:25

Hi all,

I was dragged to a Tony Robbins presentation some years ago (no, I didn't pay for the ticket - they tend to be mega$) and have since read a couple of his motivational books. He's a very well-known figure in the States with his fair share of critics as well as a large following of admirers. (He's the one that often uses firewalks as part of his program - yes, I did it, no I didn't get burnt, yes I'm sure it helps to be in a positive mental state and yes I think it's mostly because the foot doesn't make contact with the coals for long enough to burn ).

He holds workshops on human relationships, goal-setting, creating change, modelling, NLP and all that kind of stuff. He also raises a considerable amount of money for the homeless. Some of his stuff is not for me, some of it I find extremely interesting.

Anyway, I was going through one of his books a little while after the workshop and did an exercise I found very helpful - you basically write down your goals in a variety of areas of your life in an attempt to clarify these goals to yourself and to render them more achievable. Now, I'm not suggesting it's because you've written stuff down that something specific is more likely to happen (if you write 'win the lottery' it won't affect your chances), but once it's written down and you've acknowledged it's an important goal for yourself, you're more likely to make change which will help your goal become more likely (ie. you might actually go out and buy a lottery ticket ).

It is amazing but I think true that once things are written down they seem to become more likely to happen, perhaps because on a sub-concious level we strive (in small and subtle ways) to make these goals (dreams) happen.

I created a 'Dream Big !' document by massaging some text from one of his books into a form I could use to try and record personal goals, and thought I'd share what I created in case anyone else wants to give it a go. When I look back to the document I created in 1999, it's interesting to see how many goals I have indeed achieved, and it's interesting to see how I am still striving to reach a number of them, and also to think about how my goals have changed / developed with time.

Cut / Paste this into Word or a text editor, have a good think and fill in your answers - maybe get your partner to do one too - you don't have to share, although it can be enlightening and can help you sychronise / agree on common goals. It's also quite fun to refer back to the document you'll write regularly or even only once every few years ! I've found it a lot more effective, and enduring than New Years' Resolutions !

Dream Big !

Write down all the things you want to have, do, be and share. Imagine the people, feelings and places you want to be a part of your life. Don't try to figure out how you're going to get there, just write it down. There are no limits !

THINGS I WANT TO HAVE

THINGS I WANT TO DO

THINGS I WANT TO BE

THINGS I WANT TO SHARE

PEOPLE/FEELINGS/ PLACES I WANT TO BE A PART OF MY LIFE

People:

Feelings:

Places:

Print the completed document out and write down next to each item WHEN you expect to reach the above outcomes (now, 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, whenever).

Pick four goals to achieve over the next year:

Write WHY you will achieve those goals:

Describe the type of person you would have to be to achieve the above:

I'm not honestly sure how much of the above text is mine, and how much is Tony Robbins' but I imagine it would be only fair and correct to suggest that the copyright to the above text like with the Tony Robbins Organisation.

OP posts:
asleep · 18/12/2006 21:33

interesting read
i am going to have a go at this.

hub2dee · 18/12/2006 21:41

It's an interesting, thought-provoking exercise.

Particularly when you forget all about it and come back to your doc in a few years.

It doesn't have to be the World's Most Significant Literary Article either... one of my goals was to visit a volcano for example, and a few years back I did get to go on one off the coast of New Zealand. This year or next, I hope to visit Hawaii and get to see lava and other crazy geological bits and pieces !

One of my goals was to stop biting my nails - I still haven't done that !!!

I remember a thread not so long ago where people were posting about dreams / wants, and loads of people mentioned a pink / purple Beetle... if it's down on paper it can be something you work towards, keeping an eye out for Beetles or noticing if a garage near you does custom paintwork etc. etc. If it's not in your mind's eye you'll just forget about it and the pink Bug will forever remain a dream !

Good luck with your musings asleep !

OP posts:
sandcastlesforanaussiexmas · 19/12/2006 04:03

hub, how long was your seminar? I listened to him ramble for 6 hours once. 3 hours bfoe lunch...3 after.

We wondered why it was so cold in the room....because he has you jumping around like a loon.

We had to find some one in the room to talk to & this gorgeous dentist came ambling upto me best of the day!!!

ZZZZzzzzzzz

sandcastlesforanaussiexmas · 19/12/2006 04:08

Sorry, should had added that I did the exercise you said while we were there, feeling I have binned it tho...

It is good to put it all on paper. He is a great motervational (sp) speaking. He is full of life & get up & go....

Am I right in thinking he has bounched back from a terrible tragedy linked with an addiction?

sandcastlesforanaussiexmas · 19/12/2006 04:12

speaker Even!

Quootiepie · 19/12/2006 04:27

oooh, great stuff. Abit "American", but ill give it a go. Ill do some short term ones, considering the state im in at the mo. Maybe week/months & years

Thanks for posting xXx

jabberwocky · 19/12/2006 04:43

Thanks for posting this, hub2dee. It's actually quite timely for me, as having ds2 means a shift in former goals, etc. for both dh and me. Will definitely give it a go [fsmle]

jabberwocky · 19/12/2006 04:43

even

Quootiepie · 19/12/2006 04:50

wow - its hard. Im modifying and doing a weekly one, but... what do you share in a week? What can you be in a week? I've got down the thing I want to have, that was easy

wickedwinterwitch · 19/12/2006 07:19

Ooh, I read some Tony Robbins, long ago. I think the fire walking it completely mind over matter, it's interesting.

I completely agree that the most likely way of achieving any goal is to a) write it down and b) keep referring to it and I have done so for the major things I want to happen over the next couple of years but I keep forgetting to refer to them against timescales, I am perfectly capable of doing this at work but a bit rubbish at doing it at home.

Quootiepie · 19/12/2006 07:20

I thought Tony Robbins was that fella out of Blackadder at first

wickedwinterwitch · 19/12/2006 07:21

But every time I go back to anything I wrote a few years ago (from my Change Your Life in 7 Days book for eg!) it says as my absolute number 1 "Give up smoking" and thank god, I have done that.

redshoes · 19/12/2006 08:13

Thanks for posting this - will fill it in before New Year!

Stockingsofdinosaurs · 19/12/2006 09:14

LOL at 'massaging' text

hub2dee · 19/12/2006 14:59

sandcastles - I can't remember if it was all day or several days LOL. It was a few years ago. I think it might have been over 2 or 3 days ! Yes, there is a lot of jumping and there is a lot of 'talking to strangers'... it's very un-British LOL. But if you just go with the flow it is quite interesting, even if one keeps one's sceptic hat firmly on one's head.

Not sure he was ever addicted to anything but I think at one stage he was spectacularly broke.

Quootie - Yep, v. American, but I do think it can be useful. I haven't followed your recent threads but I know you've had a particularly hard time recently. Make sure you get proper RL support and advice - from professionals ! But I do hope you can find some utility / direction in thinking about the the future. I think your idea of breaking it down into a smaller period of time is also excellent.

www - good news on being fag free. I think we both know you might have done it without 'the writing down bit' but I also think we both know that it can help !!!

Good luck for with your thoughts, redshoes.

dino - it was oily and slippery and lovely.

OP posts:
hub2dee · 20/12/2006 20:08

.

OP posts:
sandcastlesforanaussiexmas · 22/12/2006 09:10

Maybe I am gettiing him confused with some one else...I do remember the broke part tho!

Yulemoonfiend · 22/12/2006 11:52

We have done this for the past couple of years at new year - combined with writing down anything negative (thoughts, people we wish to stop exerting negative influence over our lives etc) and burning the peices of paper. I know it sounds a bit hippy but it's quite liberating. Or maybe that's the whisky we drink while we're talkig baout it all

hub2dee · 23/12/2006 11:21

.

OP posts:
Glassofwine · 23/12/2006 11:26

my BIL told me that every NY he writes a letter to each of his children, he doesn't give it to them, but it's a good diary.

hub2dee · 31/12/2006 22:19

.

OP posts:
hub2dee · 03/01/2007 12:56

Last .

OP posts:
asleep · 03/01/2007 12:57

i found it very helpful! thanks again

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread