We have been bad friends....

[Nemoinapeartree]

Dh had an email today from one of his friends who we used to be quite close to but since haing children sort of lost contact. They only live 10mins away by car if that but they both work full time etc. Anyway we had ds and they are his godparents but not really spoken to them in past 10mths so they dont know I am pg again etc. Have posted cards on their birthdays and they have done the same for us but not phoned etc so Dh emailed last week just to catch up. He got an email today to say they have 4wk old twins. Now we heard on the grapevine they had put their names forward to adopt but now we have no idea if the twins are from them naturally or adopted. Feel really bad to have not been there supporting them either way.

don't beat yourselves up about it. dh had friends who he lost touch with due to his x-wife being mean to them on the sly. they found out he was divorced a week before our wedding, rang out of the blue and ended up on the guest list. that was a random story, but the point i'm making is it's never too late. arrange to meet!! swop good news!!!
good luck

And I'm sure now they have children of their own they'll appreciate how little time you have for anything but kids!

whenevil Dh has emailed back to say we will pop down next week if its convenient and will ask if they are doing anything new year as we always stay in due to the children so they could join us..lol

Make up for lost time by arranging to visit. Offer help and get them a copy of the Mumsnet book!

there you go. if you were such bad friends then you wouldn't still be in touch at all. if they have 4 wk twins surely at least one of them won't be working at the mo, maybe you could visit in the day as well, coffee, that type of thing?

whenevil thats what we have arranged for next thurs day time as Dhs friend said he has thurs off and dont just want to turn up with my 3 and 1yr old..lol

don't worry. am sure conversation will flow naturally and everything will be fine! both of you can appreciate that the other has been busy...life happens! good luck, hope it goes ok

thanks whenevil..you have made me feel better..it is just that we had different priorities and DD has been in and out of hospital etc this year so we seemed to loose the few friends we did have between that and being pregnant.