another am i being unreasonable thread

[cranberryjam]

my two sisters and their dhs and our cousin and her dh are going out in the week and its been arranged for several weeks. Although we've already put it off due to my sisters double booking. Anyway, her dh works until 6pm but on the night we're going out he apparently has to work until 8pm but may slope off a little early. He wants to get washed/changed at our house instead of going home. It is possible he wont get to ours until about 8.30ish though and the tabel is booked for 9. We're leaving the children and dd's friend (teenagers) here with my friend up the road as emergency contact. Sister refuses to see that once Ive left the house the children arent to let anyone else in AT ALL. She thinks her dh should be able to come and get washed/changed without us being here. Her dh is a little bizarre at times by the way.

i should add that we have actually all arranged to meet at 7.30 here to go into town for drink pre-meal so him coming at 8.30 would mean we would already have left

Eh?
What's the problem?
Why shouldn't he come in?

What to you mean by bizarre?

Unless he's dangerous I don't understand why he can't get changed at your house while your children are there.... am I missing something?

Is it that you don't trust your BIL to be with the kids? or that you don't want the kids to answer the doorbell in case it's someone else? If it's the latter, couldn't your BIL ring them when he gets there so they know it's him (assuming he has a mobile)

Can you not just ask him to phone when he's on the doorstep, rather than just knock, so they know it's definitely him.

Yes, surely if they're teenagers they'll be able to cope with a phone call from the doorstep, or with your intercom system if you have one ? Plus I'd have thought that if they're home alone with a back up nearby, another adult who's joining you later would be another useful checker up to make sure they're OK.

if you think neither of those options is safe then perhaps they're not old enough to be left anyway. Sorry.