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Am I being unreasonable.......

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6beetrootsAmilking · 14/12/2006 17:26

Let's say for example:

You were experieinced in your field.

For the last two years you had done some work at your child's school, made an impression with the kids,the parents and the staff and given them a damn good expeirence. FOR NO MONEY

A new teacher comes in, and while 'letting' you carry on with this work, she also made it clear that 'we bring you in as we have not got the time' Nothing to do with wanting to give the kids a unique experience, that only a professional, outsider can do!

Would you just want to tell them to take a running jump

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MrsBadger · 14/12/2006 17:28

I'd want to, yes.
but I don't think I'd do it

(am coward)

MerryPiffmas · 14/12/2006 17:28

Yes I'd be sorely tempted, quite patronising and superior of her IMO

VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/12/2006 17:29

You could send her an invoice.........

compo · 14/12/2006 17:30

although very annoying she may not have meant it to sound the way it did.

indigNativity · 14/12/2006 17:32

I'd want to let her know how I felt about her attitude - but also that I did it for the kids' benefit not hers

VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/12/2006 17:39

OR......

you could let her know, whilst you dont mind "helping out", you do have more important things you could be being paid to do

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6beetrootsAmilking · 14/12/2006 17:56

the project I work on is once a year, and is pretty high profile int e school. I bring in a professiosanl team and all in all it is bloody amazinng.

She seems to think she is doing me a favour

and that she could do it just as well

and is trying to interfere i the project in a 'I know better' kind of way.

I feel like saying 'Do you know who I am"

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paulaplumpbottom · 14/12/2006 17:58

Just tell her you can always take your services elsewhere.

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6beetrootsAmilking · 14/12/2006 18:00

troublare is my kids are at the school and I don't want to fall out with her.

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quanglewangle · 14/12/2006 18:05

If she is new she won't have seen you in action yet? So do it once, cultivate a thick skin and ignore any comments, then when she sees how successful it is she will be fine for future sessions.
And if she isn't fine don't do it again. Or stop the year after your own kids have experienced it

marymillington · 14/12/2006 18:18

beety, just remember that she may be feeling really challenged by your prescence and the fact that you are offering something that she can't. it would be very easy to take the huff and just stop but if its important to you and the rest of the school recognise its worth, i would see if i could work with her. if not, i'd choose another class with a more amenable teacher to work with. are the head etc all into it?

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6beetrootsAmilking · 14/12/2006 18:19

I work with the year 10 and up - my oldest is in year 8!

The problem, I think, is that the kids Love what I do with them and that is making her jealous!!! She cannot see that it is about the kids not about her or me. shame - am worried that she will try and interfere all the way along.

AND how dare she say ' we use you becuase we are too busy..' how dare she...

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marymillington · 14/12/2006 18:21

actually, what i would do is give her a specific job to do in making it happen (whether you really need her to or not). encourage her her to feel a part of it.

andaSOAPBOXinapeartree · 14/12/2006 18:24

Why don't you say, 'How interesting, I do it because I am a professional in this field and hte experience I give the children is way ahead of the experience that an amateur such as you could deliver'!

If that raises a protest then you could tell her that, of course you could teach the children yourself if you had time, but it probably wouldn't be as good as if a professionally qualified teacher did so, why would she assume that your professionalism should be viewed any differently!

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6beetrootsAmilking · 14/12/2006 18:29

MaryM, she has already taken on a role but interferes all the time and is a cow!

Dear xxxx

the reason I am involved in this project is becasue I beleive that the kids need and bennefit from a professional outside person coming in and giving them a different and orignianl experience. Just like we bring in professional musicians and composers, so hte school has aasked me a professional to work witht he kids.

I do not do it to further my career or for money. I do it out of the kindness of my herat. I do not appreciate, therefore being told that the reason you are using me is becasue you are too busy. If this is the case then we need rethink the reasons why I am here.

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quanglewangle · 14/12/2006 18:34

Well said.

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6beetrootsAmilking · 14/12/2006 18:35

I dierct them in a shakespeare play.

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quanglewangle · 14/12/2006 18:38

Sounds fun and a brilliant experience for everyone. Except her. A shame she is spoiling it rather than benefiting herself. There is a high turnover of teachers at some schools - maybe she will depart soon.
Is she very young and feels undermined? Or maybe old and set in her ways?

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6beetrootsAmilking · 14/12/2006 18:40

she won't leave, she is on to a good thing. late 30's, and it would seem insecure. Shame as I thought it woulld be really good to work with her

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6beetrootsAmilking · 14/12/2006 18:40

she won't leave, she is on to a good thing. late 30's, and it would seem insecure. Shame as I thought it woulld be really good to work with her

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marymillington · 14/12/2006 18:43

in that case i would speak to the head (or whoever is her boss), who are presumably all on side and recognise the huge value of what you do. maybe suggest that you all meet together to discuss the best way to work together.

i've been in similar situations (though being paid to do so) and come across teachers like this who are hugely, hugely threatened by other professionals working with "their" kids.

i wouldn't write directly to her. it might sound huffy or apologetic.

themulledSNOWMANneredjanitor · 14/12/2006 18:43

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motherinfurrierfestivefrock · 14/12/2006 18:45

I'd be fuming. You poor love.

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6beetrootsAmilking · 14/12/2006 18:45

director not famous

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