Is anyone else childfree at Christmas? What are you doing?

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Until a few months ago I was doing the usual big christmas at mine, had started the prepararations, mincemneat made, christmas pudding made, cake made and christmas dinner planned. My ex kept moaning that he never had had dd for christmas day so I gave in and said he could have dd over christmas, thinking an adult christmas might make a nice change and we could always do boxing day. Then my sister split with her boyfriend so she is going abroad to clear her head, my other sister has to work and another guest is ill. Another relative who was coming with her children has just got divorced so she is going abroad with my sister. My mum is talking about spending christmas day with a friend - the one who is too ill to come to ours which is fair enough.

But I am a bit pissed of that I put alot of time into planning Christmas and now everyone ahs buggered off, a bit self absorbed and selfish perhaps but its my party (or it was until they all made other plans) and I will cry iof I want to.

So my christmas has now gone from about twelve people to me and dp and now I can't be bothered at all. I am certainly not cooking a big christmas dinner for him and me especially as he is a faddy eater and I know thatgoing out for a meal with him will drive me mad as I watch him pick at our overpriced meal.

I have been quite unwell latley and need a rest so dd is actually going to her dads from the 29th until new year. I suggested to dp that he goes to his family for christmas so I can have a few days restand relaxation on my own as recomended by my doctor but dp won;t go on his own.

We looked at going to stop in a hotel for christmas ( an idea I loved) but dp says they are all too expensive, we can't get a a two night break for under £500.

Whatwould you do if you were left on your ownsome this christmas. [self pity emoticon]

no not child free - but if I were, I would go to midnight service, open a present or 2 when i got in. Then cooked breakfast, possible trip to Christmas day service - back for simple but yummy lunch - salmon in champagne sauce (like a white sauce but equal quantities of cream and champagne instead of milk). Out for a walk to blow away the cobwebs. then Christmas ckae and mince pies - having invited one or 2 neighbours/freinds in for a drink I think.

But I would be very sad not to have any family or friends around. Hope you do not miss DD too much.

TSAP

Get your self to M&S and buy everything, it will still be cheaper than a hotel.

Prick here three times and wait for the bing, sometimes these are the best words in the English language.

Buy some books, buy some Lush stuff, take to the bath and then to the bed in that order, repeat until you feel better.

have just discovered the christmas toic so ahve out this in their.

Food is a big bone of contention as dp is the fussiest eater I have ever met which is why I am refusing to cookas I will ahve to do one thing for him and one for me unless I have gammon chips!

do as LJG suggest then and buy yourself a really yummy meal for one from M&S, and gammon for him. stock up on a good dvd or 3, and relax.

I am really a trying to see this christmas a sa chance for a well earned rest but I justcan't getmy headaround the fcatit will just be me or perhaps me and dp. Am absolutely dreading it. Even spent time yesterday phonig around hospitals and shelters to see if anyone needed any volunteers but they didn't need anyone.

TSAP

You need to STOP take the time and use it wisely, as I said bed to bath and bath to bed, will work wonders.

We are having a semi-childfree Xmas - without my dsc, but with ds (10mo so hardly counts!!) I was trying to persuade dh to go out for dinner, but he wants to stay in and get smashed. I think we will probably get some DVD's and chill with a bottle of something sparkly... Possibly go for a walk, if the weather is okay and I can drag dh out of the house. Enjoy the peace!!

I guess I just feel redundant I ahve always done Christmas even before dd came alongand it has always been wonderful. The thought if me , dp the tv and a paor of ready meals is justtoo depressing for words.

I am with you on that - hence trying to persuade dh to go out! But, I figure that if you can chill out, drink some alcohol and cuddle up, it can't be that bad...

I'll be on my own over christmas, every year I think it will get easier and I should enjoy the time,but its very hard and lonely.

well I won't be on my own now, ex has wriggled out of paying maintenancer again, and I havehad enough so dd is spending Christmas here. Childish, petty and probably very wrong but I have stopped contact.

Surely you can buy a load of nibbly things that dp will eat? If not, just buy yourself something lovely - and give him gammon and chips.

Have lots of champagne, some chocolate and spend time in bed - with each other, as you will not be disturbed

If you have been told by your GP that you need a break/rest you would be very foolish to ignore the opportunity.

What's wrong with just trying to enjoy your time as a couple?

I suppose it is just not what I associate with Christmas, and dp and I have timew every other weekend to have time on our own togther. All non relavant now though as when I tried to conatct the ex about coming to a sensible arrangemnent about maintanance I discovered he has chamged his phone number and not given me a new one so dd will definelty be with us then.